Met up with pregnant friend last night

[karmgirl]

Was fine. I didn't feel upset at all talking to her about it. Afterwards, when I got home I thought she's so lucky. But that wasn't a really strong feeling and I am just pleased for her really. I kind of vaguely think I wish that could be me but in a way I feel like I would rather have a baby when I have a bit more life experience now. I have always wanted children young but now I'm thinking I wouldn't mind waiting til I'm 25 but as long as I have a baby by the time I'm 30 that would be ideal. I'm feeling quite positive at the moment. I'm trying to think that ok thats her life and her baby and good luck to her but actually I have got things to look forward to in life too. So I'm just trying to keep a PMA - postive mental attitude.

xxx

[obNOXious]

Beautiful.... well done:) that's exactly where you should be headspace wise now, look to the future and you won't go far wrong, you're doing really well, stick with it:)

[Rosetta]

Spot on Nox.
Keep it up Karmgirl!!!

[karmgirl]

Thanks jsut glad I met her know xx :)

And yes I this is definitely where I should be with my head.

[4getmenot]

ah karmgirl see told you you would be ok, and its eems to have eased you way of thinking a bit. One thing I will say stop all the planning, with the I'm going to have children by this age etc. I always wanted 4 children but I'm 30 now and non. you cant plan at all. My sis (redcrx) will tell you that but she has 2 beautiful children now at age 36. You are still young enjoy it. xx

[karmgirl]

Oh i never knew redcrx was your sister! Thanks 4get - if it wasn't for you telling me to meet her I might not have done :) x

[4getmenot]

Karmgirl you did it all yourself, and if you can get the strength togather to do that you�re on the way to sorting yourself.

[redcrx]

yey well done karmgirl! Im glad you feel more positive now!

Dont set yourself dates on when to have kids, it doesnt always work out like that. I spent 12 years with my ex who suddenly said he'd changed his mind about kids, it was one reason we broke up. I moved on and met Mr CRX and we were discussing having kids within a year or two. Fate had other ideas and we actually fell pregnant 8 weeks after meeting! lol. Now Im mummy to 2 little ones and i never expected to be a mummy xx

[daisycup]

totally agree with 4getmenot. I'm 30 too and when I was in my early 20's I thought my life would be completely different and I would have kids by now. But still I'm happy and if it happens then it happens... I also had an abortion when I was 18. Looking back, I made the right decision. I was too young, a child still and I don't know how I would have been able to cope. Enjoy your life and every minute of it, life is too short to be upset and thinking about the past. You did the right thing meeting your friend and I'm glad you are feeling more positive. x

[EngTeach]

You can not pace yourself around other people and their lives. I am 39 and believe me i never thought my life would be what it is. It is not bad, just not what I expected. No husband, no kids. I also have observed enough married with children types to know it's not all it's cracked up to be.
My one friend may as well be a single mom for the little her partner does and the other can't sneeze without checking with her partner to see if it's OK, so your life will be exactly what it's supposed to be. Don't waste time regretting what you think it should be and enjoy what it is.