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Love or my life or London???
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I am 23 and madly in Love.
I have been with my partner for over 4 years and love him to bits. One day I want to marry him and know he feels the same way.
However I've alwasy wanted to move to London-just to experience the life there as so different to rest of England.
I don't know many people there, but have looked on sites and there's plenty of rooms going for rent.
I am a keen writer and actress so thought I could go and try break into that.
I also have savings and bar experience so would hopefully be able to get a job to keep me afloat.
I really want to go there, and want my boyfriend to come with me but he wont. He says he hates it and wouldn't want to.
He says I'm being selfish, and if i go then he will go to spain to live with his mum, and may stay there for good!
I'm really happy with our lives at the moment but feel I really want to do this.
Do I just sit back and let London go buy, but may regret it when older, or do I go and jeopodise my relationship. Our relationship may last, but if it doesn't then I feel I will regret that...
I have been with my partner for over 4 years and love him to bits. One day I want to marry him and know he feels the same way.
However I've alwasy wanted to move to London-just to experience the life there as so different to rest of England.
I don't know many people there, but have looked on sites and there's plenty of rooms going for rent.
I am a keen writer and actress so thought I could go and try break into that.
I also have savings and bar experience so would hopefully be able to get a job to keep me afloat.
I really want to go there, and want my boyfriend to come with me but he wont. He says he hates it and wouldn't want to.
He says I'm being selfish, and if i go then he will go to spain to live with his mum, and may stay there for good!
I'm really happy with our lives at the moment but feel I really want to do this.
Do I just sit back and let London go buy, but may regret it when older, or do I go and jeopodise my relationship. Our relationship may last, but if it doesn't then I feel I will regret that...
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Don't come here to London.
Its a dump full of poverty.
Great to visit as a tourist, hateful to live and try and earn a living in.
Bad traffic, buses, the tube is full of wierdos, nobody who is here seems to be local, rip off drinks, rip off congestion charge, rip off council tax, rip of houses...........I could go on.
We moved here & worked hard for 5 years for little return. We've moved out now and life is just so much better and when I do have to come back into London I can feel my stress levels rise.
Its a dump full of poverty.
Great to visit as a tourist, hateful to live and try and earn a living in.
Bad traffic, buses, the tube is full of wierdos, nobody who is here seems to be local, rip off drinks, rip off congestion charge, rip off council tax, rip of houses...........I could go on.
We moved here & worked hard for 5 years for little return. We've moved out now and life is just so much better and when I do have to come back into London I can feel my stress levels rise.
Tough situation but I guess you have to do it otherwise you will regret it. Think your bf should be a bit understanding and if its not forever then it shouldn't be a huge problem. Maybe compromise and live on outskirts of London?
But then you wouldn't get same experience, but you kind of would through working in London. How long did you want to go for. Set a time and stick to it. If its only a year or two its not so bad.
But then you wouldn't get same experience, but you kind of would through working in London. How long did you want to go for. Set a time and stick to it. If its only a year or two its not so bad.
I am an escaped Londoner and think you must be looking at London through the eyes of a tourist, and have romantic notions about what life is like there. Compostella and Jayne are absolutely right. I don't blame your boyfriend, I certainly would not move to London.
However, you are very young and I appreciate you need to find things out for yourself and need to take some chances in life.
So, go to London and let your boyfriend go to Spain for a while. If you really love each other then a short break won't be the end of the world and you won't look back regretting and thinking you could have changed your life.
However, you are very young and I appreciate you need to find things out for yourself and need to take some chances in life.
So, go to London and let your boyfriend go to Spain for a while. If you really love each other then a short break won't be the end of the world and you won't look back regretting and thinking you could have changed your life.
no-one has yet commented on the fact that the boyfriend himself seems to be being a little selfish with his threatened ultimatum.
"If you go to London I'm going to live with me mum and might stay there, nah nah de nah nah...."
London I don't think is in reality all you think it's cracked up to be - but you have to do what your heart tells you to do.
"If you go to London I'm going to live with me mum and might stay there, nah nah de nah nah...."
London I don't think is in reality all you think it's cracked up to be - but you have to do what your heart tells you to do.
1. London is romantic for tourists but a dump to live in.
2. Do you have an Equity card? If not, you don't stand a cat in hells chance of getting one or doing any acting work.
3. if you want to write, you can do that anywhere. but a poky bedsit in a noisy city is not conducive to creativity.
4. You have to decide if your unrealistic dream is more important than your boyfriend.
2. Do you have an Equity card? If not, you don't stand a cat in hells chance of getting one or doing any acting work.
3. if you want to write, you can do that anywhere. but a poky bedsit in a noisy city is not conducive to creativity.
4. You have to decide if your unrealistic dream is more important than your boyfriend.
My son went to work in London after uni. He stayed 2 years and then moved to Reading. He was glad to be out of it, wasnt as excitng as he thought it would be. He hardly ever goes into London now.
I dont even like it for shopping. I cant understand why people get so excited about shopping in London as though its the `in thing to do.
I dont even like it for shopping. I cant understand why people get so excited about shopping in London as though its the `in thing to do.
yeah - forget London. If you want a change of scenery, a change of residence, the chance to write etc etc - consider moving to spain rather than the capital.
You're only 24 - I presume your boyfriend is of a similar age? Unless either of you have a lot to lose - go to Spain together for a few months rather than London?
You're only 24 - I presume your boyfriend is of a similar age? Unless either of you have a lot to lose - go to Spain together for a few months rather than London?
As above it's a forest gump, I would board my dog there, it ain't like the movies you know with Hugh grant type bumbling Englishmen everywhere drinking champagne and hanging around coffee shops trying to impress the girls. Your bloke sounds like a well switched on Geezer to me! Stay at home with him.
Following on from Burston: My London cousin loves coming to stay with me and shopping in Norwich which she says is far better than London - All the major department stores with the same wide ranges, plus a bigger variety of individual shops and far less hassle in a much nicer and beautifully clean (and relatively safe) city.
well jenni, i am obviously in a minority, but i think you should follow your dream.
Just because others have tried it and it's not been for them, doesn't mean you will have the same experience.
I do understand when you say that this man is your true love. But if he is, why is he not supporting you?
If you are true soul mates, i believe you will end up together anyway as it would be unbearable apart.
Could you not have a small break? Say, 6 months where you try the london life and he can go to Spain. After all they are only 2 hours apart.
You only get one life for goodness sake! Your London dream is obviously a real desire and therefore, i think, yes, you would regret not trying it. You'll never ever be in this position again - 23 with the world at your feet. Don't spend your old age wondering what may have been.
We regret the things we didn't do, not the things we did.
Good luck x x
Just because others have tried it and it's not been for them, doesn't mean you will have the same experience.
I do understand when you say that this man is your true love. But if he is, why is he not supporting you?
If you are true soul mates, i believe you will end up together anyway as it would be unbearable apart.
Could you not have a small break? Say, 6 months where you try the london life and he can go to Spain. After all they are only 2 hours apart.
You only get one life for goodness sake! Your London dream is obviously a real desire and therefore, i think, yes, you would regret not trying it. You'll never ever be in this position again - 23 with the world at your feet. Don't spend your old age wondering what may have been.
We regret the things we didn't do, not the things we did.
Good luck x x
