how to say no!

[xxlizziexx]

hey erm need some advcie please! ok this guy i used to fancy him alot but now i just fany him even before i fanced him he still asked me these questions. we talk about sex quite alot but i dont mind if you get what i mean, its a laugh. thing is he wants me to show my tummy to him and my boobs and i dont want to. i made the sily mistake of showing my tummy to a differnent guy on webcam and now he keeps asking to see my tummy and boobs. i dont no how to get him off my back and he asked me if i would do things with him. like finger me and bj etc and like he just wont stop asking me them questions, i nearly did when i fancied him loads! anyone no how to tell a guy no and they actully get the message! serious talks dont work with him. sorry about the spelling thanx alot :) x x

[Wraith]

You could point out that your only 14 and your not ready for any of these things yet. Apologise for giving him the wrong impression and point out that you've had to tell your mum because of the pressure he's been putting on you. You're a sensible girl and shouldn't be afraid to talk with your mum.

Take care xxlizziexx.

[el duerino]

eh. just say no. if he asks again tell him it is no joke and if he doesnt stop a) you wont consider him a friend anymore b) you will consider taking the problem to a higher authority (even if it is just your mum ;) )

[archbishop]

OK Wraith.How do you know xxlizziexx is 14?

[crazy chick]

Yea how do you know Wraith? hmmm??

[Greedyfly]

Just say NO! - if he persues you tell him to back off.

[Lindy Loo]

Hi Lizzie is 14..How do we know? Well she put a teenagers point of view to a question in parenting and mentioned she was 14 there. Hope that solves the mystery!!

[Lindy Loo]

Lizzie, please don't get involved in what these guys are suggesting. How old are these guys? They do sound alot older than you and should know better. As Wraith says, you are a sensible girl, but you're obviously worried and frightened by this. Try and avoid these guys as much as possible, but please have the courage to talk to your mum or another adult you trust about this. It is not the sort of thing a genuine male friend would ask you to do. Take care Lizzie. Thinking of you.

[xxlizziexx]

thank you all for the help :) hi lindy loo, they are 16 and 17. thing is the 17 yr old one and really loverly hes an idiot sometimes but hey all guys are. he didnt askme last nite wihch is a start but the 16 yr old did, so i told him to shut up and stop asking me and he said ok but made me go on webcam which i dont really mind. sounds like im being reallly pathetic. if they ask me one more time then i wil say u got one more chance other wise i'll never talk to u again and if thats the way he wants it then fine, i'll crush me but still thank u so much all of you for making me stand up 4 myself. sorry bout the speling. xx lizzie xx

[Lindy Loo]

Glad to help lizzie, but I'd stop the webcam stuff too you are just being taken advantage of. As you grow up you'll find that your self confidence grows too. Teenage years are not easy cos your not a child but not an adult. Plus all the hormones are raging. If you're not sure whether to do something in a relationship, always opt for saying NO, specially if you feel uncomfortable about it. Just enjoy being 14, there's plenty of time for the serious later, and remember your mum was a teenage once so chat to her too. Take care

[Wraith]

Thanks for clearing that up lindy loo, you're 100% correct. It's amazing how some peoples minds work.

[Casey]

guys can be pushy, especially if they are older!! You have to be very firm and tell them to back off. Don't let them talk you into things you are not comfortable with, you could end up in a very bad position. You need to be firm and let them know you are the one in control of your life.

[xxlizziexx]

yea im control of my life, makes sence your right thanx! thanx lindy loo i'll stop the whole webcam thing thank u :) you all have given me more confidence with them. thank you all so much :) x