Am I overreacting?

[legal girl]

I just wanted some opinions on whether you think I'm overreacting or not. I got engaged a couple of months ago and am getting married in 2010. I made a point of going around personally telling everyone, including my best friend who I've known for nearly thirty years and I also asked her to be bridesmaid. This morning she phoned me and said that she's now engaged. She said she'd tried to "clear some space" in her diary to come and see me but hadn't been able to so told me over the phone. She also said that she's getting married next year and gave me the date.

I feel a bit put out that she couldn't find the time to tell me such happy and important news in person, and also as she's getting married next year I feel a bit like she's peeing on my bonfire if you get what I mean - her wedding will overshadow mine and she won't be interested in my preparations.

Am I just being oversensitive?

[sara3]

maybe she was worried about telling you to your face because she knew your reaction would be like this....

[smudge]

In addition to my last post - in a couple of years time, you probably won't even remember posting this thread lg & hopefully, you'll be far too busy enjoying your new life!

So as I said, look forward to the future......

[Whoever]

Yes - your engagement and future wedding are the biggest events in your life. Why shouldn't her engagement and wedding feel the same for her?

You're both excited and looking forward to happy events in your respective lives, and while you've been best friends in the past you both now have more important people in your lives and the focus and priorities will change for both of you.

Just be excited for each other and share your plans. We all move on with our lives at some point and hopefully you can do the same in a spirit of friendship.

[legal girl]

Thanks for all your replies. I can see now that I was being a tad oversensitive (probably hormonal that day!) and feel awful that I couldn't just be pleased for her and can't believe I reacted that way. It makes me feel like a horrible person.In my defence though, throughout our lives she has been the outgoing one who is always the centre of attention. Forgive me for wanting some attention for a change, but you're right, my wedding after hers will be my time and in the meantime I'm happy for her and have told her so. Thanks folks.

[4getmenot]

you're not horrible at all. and at least you took all our answers as just that and took it all in. many people when they dont get the answer they may want to hear get in a grump. Obviously this person has always been centre of attention but on each individual day you both will be. You will have your day dont you worry about that. xx

[sara3]

you're not a bad person! maybe your self-esteem could do with a bit of work though?

is she your bridesmaid? get her an unflattering dress!

seriously, you're getting the man.. its more than a lot of us have. congrats on your wedding plans :o)