cheek from a 15 year old boy

[albaqwerty]

how would you deal with/handle cheek from a friend of your son? I'm not impressed and told him so. Not an ounce of remorse, thought it was hilarious. I didn't. (Having said I didn't think it was hiilarious am considering posting this in "How It works :D) duh teenagers.....

[noway1]

I rember being young ,and never ever would you disrespect your elders.However thats how things have gone,sad but true.

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree noway, but it's up to parents these days to instill manners into their offspring. Many are too busy with themselves to be bothered.
As for my own sons friends, if they were ever rude or outspoken in my house, I'd soon put a stop to it - and that goes for my own children as well.
Luckily, they've been brought up to show respect, but we give it in return, so touch wood, no great probs at the moment.

[paraffin]

Hi guys:

I don't agree that respect should be automatic simply in deference to age, for, let's face it, there are some older people who have attitudes which frankly stink.

That's not to defend any little spotty oik who's just downright rude and belligerent. But, without sticking up for them or condoning unacceptable behaviour, it takes some kids longer to mature and grow up than others.

However, unless the lad referred to here is retarded, 15 is old enough to know right from wrong. Perhaps his parents are unaware of his rancid attitude? Sounds like he needs taking down a peg or two, perhaps a bit of public humiliation of some description? Usually has the desired effect.

[Ice.Maiden]

Lol - perhaps just some good old fashioned training in manners and how to behave in other peoples' homes.

[pinktwink]

yes i agree respect is not a given. Years ago children were taught to respect their elders and now we know the atrocities that occurred.

Alba cheek from a 15 year old is not unusual however you need to be clear about your boundaries regarding this. How cheeky eas he?? Try understanding his behaviour does he have difficulties at hom, are his parents supportive. If you are concerned talk to his parents

[imhotep]

I couldn't agree with you more Ice.

[Ice.Maiden]

Well imhotep, as pink says, there could be many reasons for why this person's cheeky. Some "cheek" is really just being over-confident, and at 15, I'm sure that many teenagers are outspoken at the wrong times, but if parents don't set a good example, what chance do their children have?

[paraffin]

When I was about 8 years old I cussed and swore at some adults who lived near us. My parents found out and I couldn't sit down for about a week. I never did it again.

PS: I did not learn the swear words at home!

[gonzo00]

how about waiting untill his mum and dad aren't looking.....then stick yer boot up his @rse????
they'll never belive him if he tells on you!!!!

[pinktwink]

yes parrafin but why did you swear at them did they do something o you

[trt]

What exactly did he do that was rude?

If it was really bad, I would make some excuse to be alone with him and slap him over the head, but deny to your friend that nothing happened when he told his Mum or Dad.

Then he might get another slap for telling lies : - )

[imhotep]

Hmmm,yes,it seems that some young kids who I pass in the street these days always have to use foul language when they speak to each other.Never heard much foul language when I was in my teens.
Times have changed rapidly since then eh?

[Ice.Maiden]

I once swore in front of my parents - quite badly. It wasn't AT them, but in front of them.
Instead of going up the wall, my mum just calmly said that by talking in that manner, I'd disappointed her. Her expression was enough that I never did it again.

[pinktwink]

trt i hope them days are gone that parents chastise their children for being in trouble without checking first!!! years ago children were abused physically and sexually in catholic schools in ireland parents never questioned why their children were troubled and chastised them more. There is never a need to hit a child it doesnt work and is a response to parentsl inadequacy

[Beauj]

pink you may be right in what you say, but also is gonzo - kick up the hole might do the trick!!! I have always taken the stance, 'I don't believe in hitting kids, but I believe if one needs a hit, then I'll give em one.' 15 most of them are wee turds at that age and l've told mine - "Just as long as you can get a job and the money to pay for a flat of your own, then youn door closes on the other side as well!" Thankfully, I've never had to thump them much, a LOOK from me was enough - also to their DA! Mind you, the kids, kids, could do with a wallop But hey, thats their Ma & Da's pay back time. I can now sit and laugh to myself Hmmmm.

[Ice.Maiden]

If parents bring their children up properly, then in the usual way, they're going to bring THEIRS properly as well.

[Beauj]

Ice.Maiden, when ours were getting brought up there was no such thing as child - line for them to threaten parents with! But even if there was, mine would still have had to make it to the phone!! Everyone is paranoid nowadays regarding Doing the Right thing, but don't you think that there are some kids need more 'checking' than others do? I know I was wild as a kid, and yes, my Ma knocked 7 bells out of me many a time - she said it never did me any harm and swore that I always heard 'ringing' in me ears - nothing to do with the batens!!!!

[trt]

pinktwink,

Your opinion is the the problem these days. The reason kids are so rude and have no respect is because they know that you are not supposed to give a slap now and again when they deserve it.

It never did me any harm and I always respected my parents, family and their friends.

Why are you talking about Catholic schools, its got nothing to do with relgion, its to do with respect for your elders.

Its why the UK has the highest rate of violence in Europe because we are to soft with the teenagers.

[paraffin]

pink:

I seriously cannot remember why I swore at them. I know now of course that it was the wrong thing to do but when you're an immature brat you just want to lash out, don't you?

Also, pink, your observations about the Catholic Church reminded me of a family I knew when I was growing up who had no fewer than 15 kids. Then, one day the parish priest paid a visit and suggested that they had another child! That's a true story.

[pinktwink]

well respect can be taught without hitting. The problem is not the lack of slapping its the lack of adequate supervision and boundaries forr children. I was never slapped and yet i have repect and always have for parents adults rtc. As ice pointed out knowing my parents would be disappointed was enough. Growing up i was clear what was expected of me and no meant no. Too often today parents are inconsistent with their children to the point children are in charge