Guilt - how do you get rid of it?

[AdriSco]

Has anyone any advice on how to deal with guilt and shame. If anythings goes wrong in my childrens' lives (all in their 20's and 30's) - I think it is somehow my fault. I even feel bad about my ex-husband as I am happily remarried and he is alone. (yet he was a b*****d). I seem to spend all my time worrying and my relationship with my husband, my job and my health are all being affected. Am also going through the menopause. Am I being a complete idiot?

[albaqwerty]

no, not a complete idiot, just human :D
what is in the past should stay there. Take a deep breath and focus on the here and now.

[DEN53]

Hi AdriSco - it is called the menopause - its makes you more emotional, more sensitive and a complete worry guts.

Its a bit like being pregnant, hormones all over the place and everything seems more enlarged. I am the same, I cry at the smallest thing, especially anything to do with children. On TV, in the papers, anything horrible against children I am in floods of tears.

Once you recognise and accept what is happening to your hormones, try and put things into prespective, things will fall into place. You are not along AdriSco.

Den xx

[tillyh345]

Hi AdriSco

Your post caught my eye staightaway bcos thats me too....I feel responsible for anything and everything to do with my families happiness.. Ive had to also stop watching the news bcos theres too many horrible things happening especially to children, then I read you are going thru the menopause, same as me so it must be that!! I have been assured it gets better lets hope so!! xx