Picked Up My Mums Ashes!

[poodicat]

Its like mum in a bag and she is in the cupboard where the meter is!

[MOUCHA]

At times like that mamya I just concentrate on happy memories - usually works for me even if I have to put more effort into it than at other times :-)

[Mamyalynne]

~wingnut~ Thats lovely, maybe I should be an egg timer, except I did buy the last double plot and I`m being reunited with my one true love ♥

[poodicat]

Mama my mum was cremated but i dreamt they couldnt settle her in her coffin and it was in a church was that because we didnt know her beliefs and her needs,i saw her and couldnt shut her eyes and her body was stiff that they couldnt shut the coffin and they wheeled her out out on a trolley like it was a msitake

[Mamyalynne]

MOUCHA you are right, positive is the only way as I would hate him to be back with me if he was still in pain and we had a joyous life.

[Mamyalynne]

Poodi thats your way of trying to believe its not real and we all do that, let the dreams go and accept thats what they are, its very early and raw for you. Eventually you will settle a bit and get out the family photos etc and reminisce even though you will have a tear in your eye. I never thought I could do it, but the human spirit has to keep on, thats why she brought you here.

[saxy_jag]

The authority in charge of the cemetery (so that's usually the council or the church) should be able to help you locate your dad's grave.

[MOUCHA]

Poodi I think your dreams are reflecting the shock you felt over your mum's sudden death. I believe this will subside in time so you shouldn't dwell on it now. I would say talk about this with your family - thye too may be having similar problems. I do think that it could help. Mamya - if it were not for the memory of good times there would seem little point in the lives of those left. It appears that some folk, apparently, are able to get through their grieving process quicker than others - I suppose it is what makes us different people.

[poodicat]

Well guys my mum is in a posh bag thats something better that was planned for her the shed i must admit i am frightened of death

[Mamyalynne]

Indeed Moucha and also it depends on your relationship, I loved my mother but she treated me as an encumbrance, until her health failed and I was the one she called all the while impressing on me how much she loved her bys. I mourned her passing but also the passing of the love I never got.On the other hand when my father died (I was 27 my wold collapsed as we were inseperable) so as you say its each individuals experience that governs your feelings. My darling Bill had suffered enough and had made all his wishes clear and his end was as peaceful a possible.

Apologies Poodi for hijacking your very important thread, will stop now.

((hug))) M

[Mamyalynne]

above should erad "how much she loved her boys"

Poodi nowt wrong wit shed LOL

[poodicat]

Want to call her mummy rather than mum,maybe its me getting back to my childhood

[Mamyalynne]

Then call her mummy ♥

[Mamyalynne]

We're daughter and mother
Not so long ago.
We give and take
And take and give
Along time's endless row.
Love is passed
And love received
To be passed on again:
A precious heirloom
Twice, twice blessed,
A spiritual cardigan.

I'll put it on
And treasure it,
The me I have received,
And when the roles
Reverse again,
I'll have what I most need.

So may our love
Go on and on,
A hundred thousand years;
Mothers and daughters,
Daughters and mothers,
Through joys and other tears

[poodicat]

mama tearied eyedxx

[MOUCHA]

That's lovely mamya

[merejeans]

When my Mother died (my father was ill, and we expected him to die first, but Mum beat him by 11 months), we had her ashes placed in an urn, then when Dad died we put his in also, then went to one of their favourite places, and scattered them together. Don't remember what we did with the urn.

[Mamyalynne]

A spiritual cardigan ( Ihave Bills dressing gown, so I see it evry morn) nowt wrong with ateary moment.

See me too my typings gone awry and I can`t see at the best of times.

[poodicat]

hi all trying to feel funny things but struggling dont know how i will sleep tonight,mama.did you bring bills ashes home to yours and how did u feel

[Mamyalynne]

merejeans thats lovely. united again and who cares about the urn, its our memories whatever they may be that are important.

[Mamyalynne]

Poodi Bill was buried as he wished and is only a five minute walk from here and theres room for me in there too, I know its not everyones choice but how he wanted it. I don`t go often but know I can if I wish. We were together 34 years and he`s not getting rid of me easily.

♥