Picked Up My Mums Ashes!

[poodicat]

Its like mum in a bag and she is in the cupboard where the meter is!

[Sandy-Wroe]

Is there a garden of remembrance at the crematorium? They could be scattered there. And maybe think of planting a tree in her memory?

[marval]

My parents were both cremated, my father died five years before my mother. His ashes were put in an urn and burried in the churchyard. My mother died last year, her ashes were put in an urn and burried with my father. It is never an easy decision, but whatever you do remember she is at peace. I am sure your dreams will lesson, take comfort in the good times you had together. Take care and keep the memories with you.

[poodicat]

My sister and i differ in what we want, for me it would just be a scattering of her ashes around the crematorium but she is doesnt want that

[Mamyalynne]

If you can`t find dads grave then what about a favourite holiday destination?

[LoftyLottie]

Poodi, I haven't read through this thread, but just want to say I am thinking of you. My Mum died a year ago, and we too had a ceremony similar to a humanist, but I actually led it and we had music that she loved. It turned out to be a spiritual and wonderful occasion. Her ashes have been with our local undertaker, who only lives just up the road, but last week I felt I wanted her near, so she is in a sprinkler container (supplied by the Funeral Director) which is decorated with bluebell woods (May was her birthday). She now sits on the dressing table in the room she occupied with us in her final years of life before she had to go into a home :o(. I thought she would like it in there because it gets the sun. I can also see her whenever I want.

I am not a religious person and have surprised myself that this is what I want. I am quite spiritual though. Evenually her ashes will be scattered in the garden at her old home, which is now occupied by my son and his partner. We have arranged for a rose to be planted which bears her name.

Love and best wishes to you Poodi.

[ruthann58]

thats lovely lofty

[CherryBea24]

Poodicat sending you all my love I losy my Mum a few monthe ago, and today I burst into tears at the Doctors he said I was being too hard on myself, I know what you mean about feelinglike a little girl as this shocked me too, as for the dreams we all get them I think in some form mine have subsided a little now. I miss her terribly its mothers day soon and her birthday and it will the first ones without her.

Take care and hope you will be able to come a decsion soon which will be another step along the road for you.

Cherry

[Mamyalynne]

TT and theres nothing wrong with that, we all cope (or not) in our own way and memories are pearls on a necklace.

M♥