Body & Soul0 min ago
what are the consequences?
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recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a much younger girl. i have confronted her and told her i will inform her parents, i think something which would be mortifying, well it would if it happened to me the shame of it. is there anything wrong or illegal in phoning her dad up at work and telling him just how moralistic his daughter is and how he must have brought her up badly. ive heard all the takes two to tango stuff, ive already dealt with hubby shall we say. i just feel i want closure on this girl and i wont stop til ive done something to ruin her life too, but will this? anyone else done a similar thing out there and if so what were the consequences? wanting to know too if its illegal to do this in case its classed as slander, though who can prove the phone call? after all its freedom of speech and all that isnt it?!
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Samsworld,
You really don't want to do this. You vent your anger on this girl and you'll screw things up for yourself. Unless this girl is under 16 then telling her folks will accomplish the square root of fcuk all!! She ain't gonna die from it, her parents ain't gonna disown her, you'll look like a crazy woman .
Realistically, if the girl is as young as you imply then you need to figure out a few things.
1) Is your hubby a nonce?
2) If her dad found out is your hubby a dead man walking? (I know if this was one of my daughters I would cut his balls off and feed them to him!)
3) What was going wrong in your relationship for hubby to wander off?
4) What blame have you attached to hubby?
5) Is your anger to her actually jealousy?
You really don't want to do this. You vent your anger on this girl and you'll screw things up for yourself. Unless this girl is under 16 then telling her folks will accomplish the square root of fcuk all!! She ain't gonna die from it, her parents ain't gonna disown her, you'll look like a crazy woman .
Realistically, if the girl is as young as you imply then you need to figure out a few things.
1) Is your hubby a nonce?
2) If her dad found out is your hubby a dead man walking? (I know if this was one of my daughters I would cut his balls off and feed them to him!)
3) What was going wrong in your relationship for hubby to wander off?
4) What blame have you attached to hubby?
5) Is your anger to her actually jealousy?
i know,i know, apart from hubby problem, yes of course one of the reasons is jealousy and i feel she has ruined our lives right now, she kept pursuing him and flirting with him and yes, he reciprocated. i just want her parents to be aware of the fact she is not their little princess, she opens her legs easily at work and what a daughter you have etc. i doubt my hubby's head would be on the block as her parents live miles away.
"i just want her parents to be aware of the fact she is not their little princess, she opens her legs easily at work and what a daughter you have etc."
well i hope that the women also tells everyone what your husband does too then in that case.
Deal with your anger and sort out your own relationship, if you cant then leave him
well i hope that the women also tells everyone what your husband does too then in that case.
Deal with your anger and sort out your own relationship, if you cant then leave him
Why do you think her parents will be shocked? She may have been doing this all her adult life...maybe they are the same?
I agree with the others, telling her dad will just give her reason to laugh at you.
Maintain your dignity, do nothing, that way you'll always have her wondering what you're thinking. Make sure to look as good and as happy as possible in places you're likely to see her, don't give her the satisfaction of appearing to be upset by her. (Obviously you will be but don't ever let it show...I'm speaking speak from experience)
If you are making a go of things with your husband concentrate on that & don't let this eat away at you.
I agree with the others, telling her dad will just give her reason to laugh at you.
Maintain your dignity, do nothing, that way you'll always have her wondering what you're thinking. Make sure to look as good and as happy as possible in places you're likely to see her, don't give her the satisfaction of appearing to be upset by her. (Obviously you will be but don't ever let it show...I'm speaking speak from experience)
If you are making a go of things with your husband concentrate on that & don't let this eat away at you.
