Dear friend of us all, in your grief remember that the qualities everyone saw in this lady are within you too. This is how you get to recognise them as such. The best way to honour her memory is to emulate the good that you and others saw in her. And no, your message isn't a downer. We're all going to go, it's a fact, it's neither up nor down. But right now, we're here, we can remember the good in people, we can see to budgies, we can appreciate, we can feel the dawn of a new day, we can do millions of things. Let's give thanks for this lovely lady's life, and for our own lives, while we're here, from the heart, for in gratitude there is no pain.