Snooping....

[ummmm]

Just watching This Morning.....how many people go through their partners phone/emails?

Do you think it's ok to do so?

[jackthehat]

I don't, never have.
BUT I've never had cause to think that it might be a good idea if I did so..........

[joggerjayne]

Might be a bit tricky.

He lives 450 miles away, and his computer display is in Italian.

So ... no I don't.

But, in principle ... couples should have no secrets from each other, so ... go snoop.

[lankeela]

Of course! If they have anything to hide then they should be more careful.

[ummmm]

I've never looked through his phone unless I'm looking for someones number or he's told me to read a text from so and so. I don't think he's ever been through mine either.

I think it's similar to going through someones mail....

He does know all my passwords and vice versa so we are free to snoop if we want.

[joeluke]

Going through your partners mobile/email wouldn't conclusively prove anything......they may have other email addresses/mobiles

[Francis Asis]

Yeh, we have an agreement that we open each others post and check phones etc. If the other one isn't around when it comes through. Always have.

[wendilla]

I live on my own now but I used to say What's that about then? I would never dream of opening any of my kids or x's mail

[joeluke]

FA, doesn't that show a total lack of trust?

[ummmm]

I know....they were given percentages of women who snoop.

My partner only has one email account and that's because I set it up for him....bless.

[Old_Geezer]

You woud have to have a darned good reason to snoop. Everyone is an individual and has the right to withold or tell anyone else as they see fit. To abuse that you would have to find a higher priority moral justification.

[Francis Asis]

No Joe. i think it shows total trust.

[Old_Geezer]

Getting prior agreement/permission is different to snooping. If neither of you mind then there is unlikely to be ramifications to your relationship.

[Bobbisox]

I open Bills mail and he would open mine, we have always done this but without looking for anything , same as our phones, he's not in the room and a text comes through on his phone, I would open it and when he came back I would say, btw, so and so has sent you a text and visa-versa, no thought abot snooping ever would enter our heads, nothing to hide so theres n.p
Bobbi

[jackthehat]

We each have a 3-drawer bedside cabinet and for some reason these are also sacrosant...........
If she ever did feel the need to investigate mine, I think she'd be overwhelmed by the amount of rubbish (old ATM printouts, receipts, lottery tickets, etc) I safely store there.

We don't open each others letters, either but are happy to show the other the contents once these have been read.

[joeluke]

If you trust someone then why is there a need to open their mail/read their messages?

If they were meant for you they would have been addressed to you

[Francis Asis]

I pay the gas bill. It's meant for me but addressed to my husband.

[ummmm]

If a text comes through on his phone while he's not in the room I take the phone to him. Just out of pure nosiness.

I had a few come through on my phone Saturday, he's just changed his number, I kept telling him to open them because they'd be birthday greeting for him, he wouldn't though.

Jack....he has draws like that....full of crap..!

[joeluke]

Gas bills are hardly the same as personal stuff

[Bobbisox]

if I didn't trust him now at our time of life joeluke, the I would have a problem!
as it is we don't, he could go out and stay out very late, as long as I know he is ok, same as me
it may not work for others but it does for us!

[ummmm]

I would go mad if he opened my personal mail. He's free to see what it is after I've opened it.

The only thing I've opened addressed to him is his passport and that's because he told me to.