Love is Blind???

[SGKelloe32]

Does anyone think it is possible to become attracted to someone you have never met before??

For example, i have been speaking to a lad that my cousin set me up with (well i say set me up, i have never met him, but we started e-mailing each other and eventually it progressed onto phone calls) We speak every night on the phone and have arranged to meet up when he gets back from where he is stationed, The strange thing is, i have seen a pic of him and he is very good looking, but ive become attracted to his personality, i cant wait to speak to him on a night, coz our conversations can last for hours!

So, does anyone think it is possible to fancy someone just purely based on a personality??

[OBonio]

Absolutely.  My wife wouldn't have married me otherwise.

[Englishbird]

Yes, I do think it's possible.  However, i 'met' someone on line whos personality i was incredibly attracted to, when we met there just wasn't that 'chemisty' .  We are now really good friends and i'm very glad i met him.

But i know many people who have both, Reserve a little bit of judgement until you meet him face to face as you just never know.  But if you do have the chemistry face to face, then the fact that you fancy his personality is a fantastic foundation.

Good Luck xx

[SGKelloe32]

Thank you both for your answers!I do know i have to see if that chemistry isthere when we do meet, i can only hope that it is!I agree though, even if the attractionisnt there when we do meet, at least i have gained a friend!!

[bernardo]

Be attracted to - yes
Fall in love with - no

[jam4u]

i do believe that u can get attracted to someone just based on his personality and it could lead to love...its great u're attracted to his personality and not only his looks....best of luck meeting him and hope it works out for u....

[SGKelloe32]

Some great answers!I truly believe that a person is nothingwithout a good personality and it is amazing when you find someone you justclick with! It all has an air of mysteryaround it as well, knowing we both get onso well but neither of us knowing whatwill happen next - beats meeting anyoneon a drunken night out hands down!

[FP]

Good luck.  Personality and getting on well with someone is worth more than the chemistry in the end!  I do hope the chemistry is right for you though.

[Igsey]

No doubt what so ever,after all who said beauty is only skin deep..... whats in the heart counts.

 

good luck

[Oneeyedvic]

Of course it is possile to just fall in love with a personality - otherwise anyone who was blind could never be in love.......

[Le Chat]

Yes it is possible! What do blind people do? I met my husband on the internet, not on a dating site - just on yahoo messenger. We talked on line for 3 months and we got on so well. I hoped that he was genuine, as there is always the possibility that he could've been a rotter! I liked him so much, that it wouldn't have mattered if he had of been the ugliest man in the world. I was glad he wasn't but he is the same person in all ways as he was to me online ...and then some!! To be honest though, if I had met him just in a bar or club without getting to know him, then I would not have gone for him and would've lost out big time!!! So, you see, you never know!! Good luck!

[Le Chat]

My friends' mum always used to say ".. they're all bald and fat at forty but they'll always be the same person, so don't put too much importance on looks!!!.."

[dudette2005]

you can be in love with the idea of something so be careful! But if you think he's both physically & mentally attractive then wow! does it not depend if you saw the pic before you started speaking? Apparently people have individual smells and you're meant to be attracted to the smell which might be a problem but i think thats a bit far fetched! lol good luck!

[Clare A]

Once again, so much good commonsense from people on here. I've found real-life friendship (not romance, as am spoken for!) via a message board, and the bunch of us meet in person when we can manage it. A small cautionary tale, though, which isn't concerned with the horror stories you hear about people online pretending to be who they're not, etc.

Years ago a rather naiive woman I knew fell into a long conversation with a man at a National Express coach station (or some such), while they were each waiting for their bus. They got on so well that it seemed worthwhile exchanging addresses, and they were pen-pals for some months. As she told it, they became so close that they 'pretty much fell in love' through their letters. So much so that they agreed she'd stay at his house upon her next visit to England from New Zealand. This was to be a 'no strings attached' arrangement, just to see whether a relationship was possible. The outcome was that when she got to his house in Hampshire, he pretty quickly made up his mind that they should be a couple, and she as quickly decided that they shouldn't! The 'chemistry' wasn't there for her.

However, he wouldn't leave her alone, and even (she told me) followed her to the loo. The advance agreement had been 'separate beds', but his interpretation of this was a single bed for her made up in his room.

A 'rescue committee' was convened, and a group of us got her away from him, staying with various of us until she went back to NZ. So, she rather misjudged the situation and her pen-pal's plan, and had no fall-back of her own for the event of needing a 'Plan B'. There is a sequel, but it's not relevant to this thread!

[Cockney_si]

It is possible, but our animal instincts should tell us when we meet the person whether or not they are genuine. http://www.amateur-stories.co.uk/stories/stories.php?*** ****=1850&chapter=