Cheating partner

[SC00BY]

My same sex partner has cheated on me, jut once but is now pregnant. Any ideas on how to begin to get over it? I think i want to stay together!

[andy hughes]

I am so sorry this has happened. You will need to take things very slowly while you see how you really feel about her, once the shock of betrayal has died down. You must consider that her baby will be a reminder of her infidelity, and it will take a strong relationship to get past this. Only you know how you really feel about your partner, but you must avoid making any life-changin decisions until you have worked out what you, and she, really want.

[becks]

I think you also need to establish WHY she cheated - it's a personal question but has she always been bi? If not why has she cheated with a man? In any relationship people cheat for a reason - you need to find out that reason, decide whether it's something that you two can change and then decide whether you can forgive her infidelty like andy says - a child is a big reminder of this. Good luck.

[landie]

You need to discuss tis with her. Perhaps she was desperate to have a baby and thought that the old fashioned way was best. Rather than falling out over it why don't you see whether you can bring baby up between you.

[SC00BY]

Supposedly it was the result of far too much alcohol. She is insisting that she is gay not bi. And that it was just a very drunken mistake. We are now living apart, until i decide what i want to do. Thing is we had discussed having children!  Andy you are right, have to get over the betrayal first before i even start thinking about the baby.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to answer.

[iamnice50]

if yur in luv den itz worth working out!