Was I being moody

[fitforaking]

Im seeing a guy and I'm not sure if he's that into me. He never initiates sex, its always me! I'm the one who's always cuddling him and I'm the kind of girl who likes a lot of attention. Anyway, last night we were sitting watching TV, he was silenced, watching the box, not touching me or even speaking to me but sitting with one of his two cats, clapping the cat and giving the cat loads of attention. Anyway, I was sitting thinking this over for a while, thinking what I could say to him without being moody! All i wanted was a bit of attention. Anyway I lost it, got up and sat over on the other couch, he asked what was wrong and I replied, YOU! I told him i was confused as to whether or not he liked me, asked why he doesnt touch me etc etc, he then got up and said "im going to my bed, come if you want!" I then went through to his bed, he didnt touch me, turned his back on me, and you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife!!! It was awful! This morning we woke up, still an atmosphere. If he gave me half as much attention as he gives his cats i would be happy! Am i being unreasonable??

[Sqad]

ummmm


fitforaking
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Recently I've split up with my BF of 9 years. I live in a city where i've got a good bunch of friends but feel a bit stale and stagnant here. I'm seeing a CPN for some problems i've had and I'm signed...
08:54 Tue 10th Aug 2010


It is either the "old boyfriend" back on the scene OR a new BF of 4 months standing.

[missnemesis]

Of course I do fitfor but where did throwing a strop about it get you? Perhaps actually talking to him, telling him how you feel/felt at the time would have been a better way of dealing with it, don't you think?

[craft1948]

Have you gone to Spain yet?

[fitforaking]

Well we were having sex casually for a couple of months but he kept on texting me the day after getting together saying he didnt want to be seeing anyone etc etc... so i called it a day with him and never seen him for about 2 months. Then 2 weeks ago he got back in touch with me as a friend and we ended up getting it on again, things seemed different, he was really affectionate. He then came round to my house when some friends where here and we all got on really well, he was speaking about taking our relationship to the next stage, and said to me "can we have sex all the time!" I was delighted and replied yes, since i like the guy... He just seems to blow hot and cold all the time, to be honest im fed up with it... Thanks you guys, just getting this off my chest has really helped me... He's obviously not the guy for me, arguing in the first couple of weeks of a relationship isnt a good sign! Anyway, I move to Barcelona in a couple of weeks so what am I bothered about.... Suppose I just kinda like the guy... And was hoping for something more than he's willing to give, Same old story!!! Moving on! x

[Sqad]

fitfor

How is you mother with the nodule on her lung?

[starone]

A woman wants to know she is loved and he is not doing that, so find someone else who will let you know. As for cats climbing all over you in the middle of the night, well blow that, I would have been in the other bedroom, or failing that on the settee. No good being stroppy with him he will just not understand because he doesn't want to. By the way, I was married to the same man for 63 years. together for 65, if you count the courting bit. I always knew I was loved even in the bad bits.

[fitforaking]

Sqad - thanks for asking about my mum, she is still undergoing lots of tests at the moment, CAT scans and things, so were just waiting for results, she seems pretty positive everythng is going to be alright but i'm still non the wiser what a Lymph Node on the lung is... But the doctors arent making a big deal out of it so its making me think she's gonna be ok... But nodoubt if anything goes wrong i'll be back on here airing my problems lol I love this site!!! Thanks x

[ummmm]

If you's explained that in your original OP my answers would have been completely different...

Thanks Sqad.

[fitforaking]

P.S. I didnt throw a strop, i tried to mention that i thought something was wrong without getting angry or shouting... becuase i knew it would cause problems.... He was the one that shouted at me... :( And also, i know i shouldnt have gone through to his bed but it was 2am and there is a lot of snow here right now, were being advised not to travel so i was kind of stuck... And he only has 1 duvet and id have been cold sleeping on the couch... hahahah there is method to my madness :)

[Sqad]

firfor....thanks....I thought that I explained what a lung lymph node was, but I clearly didnt.

[starone]

But you didn't sleep anyway, due to the cats!

[Sqad]

pinki.....eh?

<<<To put it blunty, I think he just wants sex, no strings. <<<<

That is exactly what he has got..........why turn it down?

He has lost interest in sex with fitfor......it happens you know.

[redcrx]

i agree with pinkilady.

Move on from him, he just wants sex and only when he wants it. Thats fair enough if you want the same thing but you dont any more.

[fitforaking]

sqad - thank you for explaining what the problem was, i appreciated the answer, i really did, but because its such a big thing in my life, i really need a doctor to sit down with me and explain it all... thats all... Thanks, i always love your answers, direct and truthful, thats what i like... 10/10 :)

[missnemesis]

fitfor, you're name's not molly by any chance is it ;-)

[fitforaking]

No I agree with Pinki too, he does just want sex! I know this. As soon as i started showing more of an interest he started backing off and not liking me so much... His exact words were "Can we have sex all the time!" All he wants is sex... On Thursday he's gonna want it again... Even though we had that argument... Yeah he's ditched, i cant be ar*ed with it anymore... He's happy to have sex but just doesnt want the feelings that come along with it... I like the feelings :) I'm a soppy git at heart :) x

[Sqad]

pinki.....;-) LUVU.