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Retire Or Not?
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I am a sixty six yrs. old male with a wife several years younger. I have continued to work (part-time) for a year past retirement age and would love to retire now. My problem is my wife says 'why should she continue to work while you want to retire & sit about the house' ! -Which is something I don't do....Because I am fairly fit for my age -my wife thinks I should keep going. I only work two 8hr days a week....What should I do?
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I think your third para, Sqad, sums up our situation!! ;o)
To be honest though the thought of OH around all day doesn't fill me with joy. I like the freedom to do as I like!!
My main reason for wanting him to retire is for his health after previous problems, but he's a worker - he is one of those types that doesn't sit at home even when at home - he is always busy.
To be honest though the thought of OH around all day doesn't fill me with joy. I like the freedom to do as I like!!
My main reason for wanting him to retire is for his health after previous problems, but he's a worker - he is one of those types that doesn't sit at home even when at home - he is always busy.
I'm in the same boat, aged 71, wife is 52. She's working 3 nights a week, and will retire at 55, to avoid the NHS pension shambles.
I "retired" at 65, but decided that I would keep a few clients, just nice people! (I'm a chartered accountant)
Now, in the last couple of years, they have gone bust or packed in, so I'm stuck at home, bored senseless, and looking for something useful, like mentoring.
It's a personal choice, but if you enjoy your work, I'd stick at it!!
Good luck whatever you do.
I "retired" at 65, but decided that I would keep a few clients, just nice people! (I'm a chartered accountant)
Now, in the last couple of years, they have gone bust or packed in, so I'm stuck at home, bored senseless, and looking for something useful, like mentoring.
It's a personal choice, but if you enjoy your work, I'd stick at it!!
Good luck whatever you do.
You could point out that it is because you worked until 66 and she hasn't managed that yet so to be fair she should do the same.
But honesty is not always the best policy where tact is needed.
Trouble is, in a partnership one must think on the other person, but it seems a little one way to me when one seems to want to dictate what is essentially the other's choice.
I think you should stand firm, or else you risk becoming a doormat instead of an equal partner. In your shoes I'd point out that having reached the socially accepted age of retirement that it is your decision to make. And it is her decision to make when she is in the same situation. Fair being fair.
What do YOU wish to do ? Bear in mind that if you do just stagnate live will become less interesting and it won't be healthy. You need to have planned these things.
But honesty is not always the best policy where tact is needed.
Trouble is, in a partnership one must think on the other person, but it seems a little one way to me when one seems to want to dictate what is essentially the other's choice.
I think you should stand firm, or else you risk becoming a doormat instead of an equal partner. In your shoes I'd point out that having reached the socially accepted age of retirement that it is your decision to make. And it is her decision to make when she is in the same situation. Fair being fair.
What do YOU wish to do ? Bear in mind that if you do just stagnate live will become less interesting and it won't be healthy. You need to have planned these things.
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