What do you think ?

[tamaris]

I have been asked out to a birthday lunch from a man I met a year ago.
I dont know him well as we have only really said hello, only seen him about half a dozen times in passing. I saw him yesterday in town and he said his birthday was next month and he asked if I would go to lunch and he named a place and said he would pick me up in the car.
We are not youngsters TBH. He seems very pleasant. If I go do I take a card/present, Do I offer to pay, not sure what to do as I have not had a lunch date with a man for some time now.

[sinderella]

i personally would recommend that you meet him at the venue on a first date.you do not know him and if he is any kind of gentleman he would agree.no lift home either.good luck and hope it turns out well

[pizza]

Hi tamaris I like others would suggest meeting the guy at the venue and I would certainly take a birthday card and a birthday gesture, if it was me I would take a bottle of wine or some chocolates just out of politeness and to acknowledge his special day.
As others have suggested offer to go halves but I think as it was his suggestion he wouldn't be expecting you to pay but as a women I always like to offer, some women do take advantage of guys.
I hope you have a really lovely time and as you say you haven't had a lunch date for some time and he seems very pleasant.
Airing on the side of caution, I like others suggest you tell a friend where you are going and if you decide to go back to his or him to yours keep someone informed x
Be safe and keep us all informed x
By the way when's the date ?

[tamaris]

Hi Pizza it is 6th July.
I do not know what to make of him though as he has not called yet.

[pizza]

He will Hun xxx

[tamaris]

Hope so x

[tamborine]

that's sooo unfair, the best offer I get is invites to the homes of men at the MOT centre....not even a wolf whistle :(

[tamaris]

Sure that is not true x

[tamborine]

Dont meet in the MOT centre, they wont give discount....

[tinkerbell23]

Good luck....by all means leave details with a friend, but tbh i think its nice hes picking you up. Mabye im wrong....

And id take enough to cover your own half and if he insists on paying you can buy him a drink or whatever..a card would be nice too xx

[tamaris]

Thank you Tinkerbell x

[tamaris]

Update....he rang this morning to cancel our date, said that there were 3 July birthdays in the family and one had been arranged for him. I told him what I thought and said it was digraceful behaviour and goodbye, I am so upset and angry

[islasmum]

I think that you are being a bit harsh, tamaris - at an rate he rang you to tell you, and if someone has gone to the effort of holding a party for him it would be very difficult for him to get out of it. Did he not suggest another time, or had you already made your feelings clear by then? (incidentally, July 6th is my birthday too!)

[Psybbo]

Why not ring and apologise and suggest an alternative date?

[China Doll]

Disgraceful behaviour to phone and cancel a date, and possibly re-arrange?! Jeeesh woman you're nuts, that is decent behaviour! disgraceful behaviour would have been to not bother telling you at all and leaving you stood up. I think you went well over the top.

[Psybbo]

China, you put it so much better thanI did

[Mamyalynne]

Burnt your bridges then, that is a shame.

[boxtops]

I think that's really decent behaviour, at least he didn't stand you up (China says it so much better than me).

[Canary42]

I agree with you tamaris.

[boxtops]

why, though, canary? He's been respectful enough to cancel, and in good time, too.

[Mamyalynne]

If you throw the towel in at the first small set back, is hard to see how you are going to make a new relationship/friendship.