Dating Advice

[mizfiesta]

I met a guy recently on a dating website - he seems like a decent chap. We met for the first time last weekend - we just met up briefly on the Saturday evening for a soft drink to see if we liked each other.

He then asked me out for a meal on the Wednesday. The meal went well enough. He text me when I got home to say he had nice time and asked if he could see me again to which I replied I'd be happy to. He was having his daughter to stay from Saturday (yesterday) to Tuesday so I said I would leave it up to him on the when/where.

Anyway I've not heard anything back from him since Wednesday night. It's now Sunday. I thought he would've dropped me a text or something by now? I haven't text him as I would rather put the ball in his court. I would guess he's not that fussed about me if he's not dropped me a text over the weekend, even just to say hi. What do you think?

[The Builder]

In my humble experience, I think Miz should remember the "target audiences" when a woman dresses.

In order of priority, a woman dresses for .................

1 Herself
2 Other women
3 Husband/partner
4 All other men

Trust me, I'm a builder ;o)

[gness]

Noooooo! Never fishnet....sheer silk only.....

Jim...I have some gorgeous kitten heels...probably safer......XX

[gness]

MrsO has trained you well, Mr Builder....x

[jim360]

Well I prefer sheer but fishnets sometimes hehe.

[The Builder]

:o)

[ClaryS]

gosh I go up my allotment and come back to anarchy lol! Fishnets are common ;-P Heels are my speciality, being 'petite' in real life ( go on then shorty ass) so I'll maybe trump gnesses 6 inchers with my New Rock boots with 6 inch aluminium spikes, worn with a wiggle skirt, purple corset and sheer bolero, hair up in forties style, bright red lipstick and Chanel coco noir :-)

[gness]

Bet you don't have an axe like the axe I have.....☻

[ClaryS]

Mr. Builder, no woman dresses for other women or they would have to wear the burqua.

[ClaryS]

gness maybe not, but I got a new wheel for my wheel barrow yesterday -yes -really , a green one!

[gness]

Bu99er...I love wheel barrows....still I have a reciprocating saw and I've blinged up my sack barrow....☺

[mizfiesta]

Ha! Oh you lot are entertaining - I go away for a couple of hours and all hell has broke loose.

Well so far I've been dressing very casual - jeans, shirt and jumper - all very smart but all very casual. Mostly because we've been dining in very informal pubs! Also though because I like my comfort.

I'd make more of an effort if I was going out at the weekend obviously. To be honest I can scrub up not to bad whatever I wear. And I fit in a size 10/12 jeans very nicely :)

[mizfiesta]

Hi guys, just here again to pick your brains and gauge you opinions. Soo 4th date went ahead as planned. We went for a meal on Wednesday evening. I picked him up as it was relatively near to where he lived. We ate and chatted and everything went well.

I dropped him off home at the end of the night and he asked me in for a cuppa. I went inside, he showed me around his home, I had a cup of tea then left for home after half an hour or so. I leaned over at the doorway to say good night and we pecked each other on the lips. He didn't try and move in for a proper kiss. If fact at no point in the evening did he move in for a kiss..or touch my hand or compliment me - absolutely nothing! I honestly don't know why he is even bothering to ask me out!

As things have played out before, I haven't heard from him since Wednesday. If he wants date no.5 I would imagine he'll text me on Mon or Tuesday (if he's even going to ask for date no.5 that is! I have know clue if he even likes me!).

I've not been interested in the dating site we met on to be honest as I would only 'date' one person at a time, so I've not bothered to log in much. I did log on Friday and this morning to see if he had logged on (out of interest) and, surprise surprise, he has.

Is this guy plain and simple hedging his bets or what?! I'm fine to dine with on a Wednesday evening to get him out the house I guess - I'm better than sitting home alone! If he does ask for date no.5 (that's a BIG if) I think I'll need to ask him if he sees other people and what his dating etiquette is in the beginning. Thoughts would be appreciated.

[Sqad]

mizzi....my opinion remains the same....you are still on the bench and have yet to make the team.

Get dating again girl.

Shame you are not in my area........i would give you a go.

[237SJ]

Sqad comes from the "I`ll have your knickers off in an instant" School of Dating.
It does seem strange that you just get a peck on the lips at the end of the night. It`s almost as if he is just using a dating site to make new friends rather than anything more serious.

[Sqad]

237....LOL.....not so! not so!....my international recognition has been developed upon sound and satisfying foreplay, so when the time comes, the woman has no idea if her knickers are on or off.

[boxtops]

miz, perhaps he's one of these guys who likes to be sure of his ground before he takes any next step. It might be you who has to take the next step with him, if you really like him. I used to have a friend like that, really diffident with women in case he got in too deep.

[jim360]

Maybe he's just shy? I can't say I agree with Sqad's opinion because at one level the way this man is behaving is similar to the way I would, trying to take things slowly and carefully. But given that he's invited you in to his house for a drink and seems to keep wanting to see you, I can't imagine him not being very interested!

If you are going to ask him if he sees other people... well, I wouldn't put it like that. I'd be inclined to keep any conversation like that focused on you and him, and ask him what he's looking for and so on. And, for that matter, ask yourself what you are looking for. My gut feeling is that despite all your suspicions you like him. And my other gut feeling is that those suspicions have no basis whatever except for what Sqad's saying.

Anyway, choose whose advice you take, but if you're wanting this man to come on a bit faster then you might be waiting a while, perhaps he's not like that. So I guess that means that, one way or another, the next move is yours to make.

[Sqad]

Jim.......why do you make this thread a sqad v Jim............?

mizzi, you are a mature woman now and there comes a time when one has to make her own decisions and evaluations.

For you....that time has come.

AB has little else to offer.

[jim360]

I'm not making it Sqad v. Jim. On the other hand you've offered some advice, and I'm offering the opposite advice.