Dating Advice

[mizfiesta]

I met a guy recently on a dating website - he seems like a decent chap. We met for the first time last weekend - we just met up briefly on the Saturday evening for a soft drink to see if we liked each other.

He then asked me out for a meal on the Wednesday. The meal went well enough. He text me when I got home to say he had nice time and asked if he could see me again to which I replied I'd be happy to. He was having his daughter to stay from Saturday (yesterday) to Tuesday so I said I would leave it up to him on the when/where.

Anyway I've not heard anything back from him since Wednesday night. It's now Sunday. I thought he would've dropped me a text or something by now? I haven't text him as I would rather put the ball in his court. I would guess he's not that fussed about me if he's not dropped me a text over the weekend, even just to say hi. What do you think?

[jim360]

I just don't think your advice is all that helpful, really, Sqad. Call it yet another difference of opinion -- I think your advice might have been very good several years ago, but rightly or wrongly I'd like to think that I'm a bit more up-to-date. I don't think anyone should dress solely to impress anyone else, but more to impress themselves, and make themselves feel comfortable. So in that sense my answer to the question "what should I wear?" is: "what you want to."

[gness]

In that order, Society?....☺

[ummmm]

I agree Jim. I wouldn't take style advice from my granddad either ;-)

[ClaryS]

jim360 of course you should dress to impress on a date! Dear me, if I dressed for comfort I'd be going out in my onesie and slippers! If it was me going on a date and I was 'interested' I would be dressing up to show off my assets - that attitude is probably a bit old-fashioned to some on here but that's what I'd do -in fact when OH and I go out he would be well disappointed if I 'dressed for comfort' he likes me to show off what I've got while I've still got it lol!

[jim360]

Then you are, surely, dressing in a way that makes you feel comfortable, no? If you are comfortable showing of your assets, that's still comfortable. But if you aren't, then I din't see why you should have to dress as something that you are not. The "comfortable" I meant was a psychological comfort, happiness in the way you look, rather than a physical comfort.

[ClaryS]

jim -ok I see -I thought you meant comfortable as in physical comfort xx I'm extremely psychologically comfortable in my 5 inch high heels I adore them -but physically not so comfortable lol!

[jim360]

Not at all -- and thanks for bringing it up so I could clarify.

[Sqad]

Jim/ummmm..........she doesn't have to take my advice.......she just asked for it.

I couldn't care less whether she takes it.

[ClaryS]

Sqad needs a nice neck massage to relieve all that stress...xx

[Sqad]

Jim...are you married? Been on a Dating site? Got a girlfriend?

Just checking on your credentials as you have plenty to say on the subject.

Also...you seem "very sensible" and I am always suspicious of "sensible " people.

[gness]

Jim has a date with me......now how "sensible" is that?....:-)

[ClaryS]

you as well Gness? the two-timing rotter!!

[gness]

Oh...I reckon he'll be man enough for both of us Clarys......☻

[jim360]

I don't have to defend my credentials to you or anyone else, Sqad. Besides, gness and Clarys are fighting over me (settle down, ladies...). That's proof enough! :P

[gness]

If high heels can swing it for me, Jim....mine are six inch and scarlet...x

[redman41]

Go to Church every Sunday and keep your legs crossed ! :-)))

[Blackiequine]

Gneiss, Jim's are size 9 and black patent sling backs!

[gness]

Size 9....bu99er...won't be able to borrow them...:-(

[jim360]

I tend to prefer smaller heels myself, but I like red :)

[Blackiequine]

They go well with those fishnet stockings with seams up the back you favour!