Today I Found Out My Partner Is Messaging Guys On A Dating Site.

[Craftypig]

She doesn't know I have found out yet. I plan to confront her about it when she gets home, how should I handle it?

[Baldric]

Can you send her a message?

[excelsior-1]

diplomatically

[albaqwerty]

are you sure it's her? Is it a 'pal'who uses her account?

Be careful, are you wanting out of the relationship or is she?

[Craftypig]

BALDRIC....I dont have an account on there, I dont think U can be bothered with all the hassle of entrapment....
DIVEBUDDY....no, she used my tablet to log in and she neglected to log back out...

[albaqwerty]

so you have an account on a dating site?

am I missing something?

[albaqwerty]

oops, sorry, I've just re-read your last post. My sincere apologies.

I think the relationship is over :-(

[woofgang]

sounds like she doesn't mind if you find out.....

[mccfluff]

how long have you been together and how serious the relationship is?

how do you feel?

[ummmm]

What sort of messages?

[albaqwerty]

Craftypig, do you want the relationship to end?
If she does, then I'm afraid there's nothing you can do about it.

[piggynose]

variety is the spice of life, now who said that?

[Craftypig]

She messaged a guy on Monday but he hasn't replied yet. Added to that she messaged two guys on the 1st March but any interaction between those guys has been deleted. Only last week we went looking for an engagement ring, ironic or what!!!!

[Svejk]

that was a bitter pill to swallow.

[ummmm]

How long have you been together? Did you have complete trust before this?

[albaqwerty]

what was the tone of the messages? What did you see?

Put all hold of any engagement on the back burner.

Maybe the deleted messages weren't to her taste, maybe she just wanted to have a 'chat' with folk. Some people do need ti talk, whether it's flirtatious or not.

[sherrardk]

In January you posted about your 'new girlfriend' and you are already planning on getting married?

[mccfluff]

is this the person you mention in a q in jan that you had recently started a relationship with?

if so, its not been that long a relationship, maybe shes not as sure as you about the way things are going

the only way you'll know is to ask, i'd be straight with her and ask

[ummmm]

Maybe she had the account before you two got together and chats to some people on there.