Today I Found Out My Partner Is Messaging Guys On A Dating Site.

[Craftypig]

She doesn't know I have found out yet. I plan to confront her about it when she gets home, how should I handle it?

[albaqwerty]

thanks Sherr, found this
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Relationships-and-Dating/Question1309565.html

dear lord, 3 months and you're living together already! no, take time to get to know each other before moving in and so on.

[albaqwerty]

I'd still like to know what were the messages you saw Crafty...

[Craftypig]

We haven't been together long, but we live together. The message just said "hey there :)" But she actively looked for someone because she has initiated contact with him. Even the two guys at the begining of March were contacted by her initially. I think she is with me until she finds someone else.

[Craftypig]

We originally met on there but I deactivated my account. I feel like a right plank, this is classic Jeremy Kyle material. I feel like such a tool!!

[ummmm]

Did you know how long she's had the account for?

[ummmm]

Crossed posts.

Don't feel like a fool. It takes time to get to know someone.

[albaqwerty]

If that's what you think, then I reckon it's over before it's even started, sorry.

If you don't trust her, then there can't be a relationship.

A relationship, as you know, is all about trust.
Sorry to be brutal, but after she's home tonight, help her pack her bags.

[albaqwerty]

oh, no,no,no. you have nothing to reproach yourself for Craftypig

[Craftypig]

Ifeel like I have been taken though, literally too because its her place and I have no where to go!!

[lankeela]

How would she feel if she knew you were discussing your relationship on a public forum? I'd sign up to it again and send her a message in a different name and see how she reacts. You obviously don't trust her though so you should not be taking the moral high ground here.

[Peter Pedant]

Go home to mother - this is a non starter

[joggerjayne]

Oh, crafty, what a shock.

I hope, hope, hope that it turns out to be something silly, and that everything works out okay for you.

[ummmm]

Iankeela - why does that matter?

[Baldric]

///BALDRIC....I dont have an account on there, I dont think U can be bothered with all the hassle of entrapment....///

Who said anything about entrapment, I would have sent one word,
. . . . . GOODBYE!

[lankeela]

It doesn't to me! But seems he is only worried because he will have nowhere to go - hardly a good basis for a relationship is it? I'd keep my mouth shut about knowing what she has done, then find somewhere else to live before baling.

[Baldric]

But then I would have had somewhere else to go to!

[lankeela]

So - what was the outcome?

[Dee Sa]

heres my advice for what its worth.... get yourself a new e mail address and start a dialogue with her, then arrange a meet, let her turn up first then go in and confront her, make sure you have packed her belongings and have them in the boot of your car, this woman is taking the pee out of you.