Have You Ever Decided To Call Time On A Long-Term Friendship?

[naomi24]

If so why, how did you do it, and do you have any regrets?

[emmie]

i did call time on a long term friendship, when she slept with my boyfriend, there is a much longer tale to be told but not now. I told her in no uncertain terms that she was shallow and a heartless wretched person, though there were some swearwords in there someplace.
we had known each other for over 20 years and she was my best friend, like a sister to me.
i had no regrets, none whatsoever.

[aelmpvw]

i'm assuming the boyfriend got the heave-ho as well?

[emmie]

he wasn't much of a man at any rate, and yes he got the boot. I don't regret doing it, and when we accidentally met up some years later i got my half an hour in, let alone a pennies worth of hurt.

[Mozz71]

Back when I still used Facebook (I left FB and Twitter about six months back to help my mental wellbeing), I was forced to delete an old lady friend of mine over her support of Britain First. I accept that anybody can accidentally like one of their pics, but following a far right group and reposting their racist be got too much.

[hereIam]

Yes, earlier on this year. I felt this particular 'friend' wasn't very supportive of me and always seemed to want to bring me down. I tried really, really hard to make it work as we went back a long way, but I failed miserably. After yet one more put down, I decided to call it a day. I took the coward's way out and didn't contact her for ages and then she suddenly contacted me by email asking me what was wrong, so I told her! She still sent me a birthday card and I'm wondering if she will send me a Christmas card, but I won't be sending one back. I don't regret ending things.

[jakep]

Had friends who lived in Somerset, we’re in Kent.
We used to stay with each other for weekends.
They cancelled a visit to us, fair enough.
Next time we went to them you could have cut the atmosphere between them with a knife and he was obnoxious to us.
We arranged their next visit to us. They cancelled on the morning they were due to arrive.
A bigger back story than appears here but we had to let the friendship go. No regrets.

[Sqad]

No...never.

[LadyCG]

Yes and I was pretty blunt when it came to a head. I told her I was sick of her borrowing money and not paying it back, pleading poverty and sponging and freeloading. We've not been in contact since and that was around 2007/8.

[10ClarionSt]

Yes. It just happened without warning. No regrets. No mis-givings. No longer relevant. Why, Naomi? What's happened? Have you been ditched? A la Boris? Or have YOU ditched someone?

[naomi24]

No, Clarion, I haven't been ditched - and I haven't ditched anyone.

[10ClarionSt]

OK. Time for breakfast. Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

[Ken4155]

Yes but very reluctantly. I had to let my lifetime imaginary friend, Freddy Fudpucker, go when my wife said she didn't mind him watching tv or going for evenings out with us. She didn't even mind that he occasionally slept with us. But she was damned is she was going to do his washing and cooking without him providing any financial assistance. So i had to sit him down and tell him to his face; "Freddy," i said, "got some bad news for you, mate. You don't exist. Bye!" :-)
Do i regret it? Course i do, 'cos when ,me and her split and i invited him back into my life, he'd found a new best friend:-(

[teacake44]

My experience is...Some people will only love you as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop. :0)

[Old_Geezer]

No. But I've had others call time. Their loss.

[naomi24]

What did you do to warrant that, OG?

[Old_Geezer]

Not a lot. Happened on 2 occasions. First when I was much younger, he managed to afford a car when the rest of us couldn't, he wanted to use it for socializing but was cheesed off he'd need to do the driving, so stopped getting in touch. The second fell out with my brother and stormed out of the pub we were at when my brother and his friend joined us, saying not to call him again. So I didn't. There's some funny folk about.

[Bobbisox1]

Yes, similarly to what others have said,
Her daughter had split from her partner and rented a flat beside her, I helped out by giving her a good suite as we were renewing ours,curtains and one cushions etc,my son in law is a Painter & Decorator so I persuaded him to decorate throughout free gratis, all this was my choice after all she had been a ‘ friend ‘ for many years,things felt cool with her afterwards and we hardly saw each other , I’d heard through the grapevine that she’d got Sepsis and was in hospital so I sent a long text asking if there was anything I could do like shopping for her etc,she never bothered replying, I still don’t know what her problem was/is, I wish her well but she’s out of my life and I have no regrets

[naomi24]

teacake44 at 09.42. I think you have something there.

[ummmm]

Yes...just too much drama. I just stopped calling.

[woofgang]

not witha definite cut off point but I have let some friendships drift away on realising that we no longer had anything in common. people have done it to me too. I don't regret the former or resent the latter. I believe in the saying about "friends for a reason, friends for a season"