End Of A Friendship

[breadstick]

Hello everyone

Have any of you good people had experience of a friendship that has run its course and can't be reconciled

Any tips on how to move on and how to accept the closing of that chapter

[woofgang]

the way to do it is to do it.

[daisypotter]

Yes, and it was easy for me, I just stopped contacting said person and when they tried to contact me, I just ignored it. May sound mean, but she wasn't a nice person and I had tried really hard as often I felt sorry for her, but I realised in time that it was never going to work. She moved away soon after.

[naomi24]

Is it a long standing friendship - one that you'd be sad to lose?

[chokkie]

Well, yes we have in a way. We have one or two friends who have just dropped us for no apparent reason - we had our suspicions about the reason, but we couldn't be sure. We also had a very very good friend who dropped us like a hot cake, many many years ago - actually, he was really one of Mr Chox' best friends, but I knew him anyway, so he was a dear friend to us both. He lived in Sheffield and we lived in Birmingham, and we used to meet up regularly for walks, etc. We knew him before he met his partner, but she also became a dear friend. Sadly, his partner died from ovarian cancer, but we had to find out the hard way - we read about it in the national newspapers one day and were shocked to the core - we knew she had female problems, but didn't know that there had been a grave mis-diagnosis! Anyway, all attempts to contact our friend were met with silence and no response - that was years ago - we were both very upset to have been dropped from his life but Mr. Chox has been far more sanguine about it. I would dearly love to get back in touch with this guy, but he's seemingly no longer contactable. So we've just had to grit our teeth and get on with our lives - I think that's all I can suggest really. One of the earlier mentioned friends wasn't a great loss I suppose, but the "loss" of the other friend was a bit hard to take - she lived in Glasgow at the time, we were staying with her there and got a bit miffed that we had got up early one morning and were trying to help her by washing all the wine glasses from the night before and emptying the dishwasher .... huh?! Anyway, the advice I would give you is to - accept the closure of your friendship and get on with your life - and your life only ... feel sure you have other friends and hopefully you will make new friends in due course ... it's just not worth mithering about for too long ... Chox.

[daisypotter]

Did I read you wrong, I thought you wanted to end a friendship?

[maggiebee]

Read once that we have three types of friends:

Friends for a reason,
Friends for a season
And friends for a lifetime

Not easy, but sometimes you just have to accept that life moves on.

[elliemay1]

// and got a bit miffed that we had got up early one morning and were trying to help her by washing all the wine glasses from the night before and emptying the dishwasher .... huh?!//

Don't understand this chokkie, can you please elaborate

[jakep]

Yes I had to move on from a friendship of many years, I’m not going to give reasons here though. I still occasionally think of her and hope that she is well.
I missed the friendship a great deal to begin with but you do move on and there are some lovely memories.

[Bobbisox1]

Fair weather friends aren’t friends, real friends are in it for the long haul and you can number them on one hand

[CrapAtCryptics]

Life moves on, its not worth trying to analyse who was wrong or right just move on and find a new bestie.

[tommy39]

i never got over it,my wife ran off with my best mate......and i still miss him////

[Mamyalynne]

If this friendship really has run its course then you'll have to accept it,you are allowed to feel sad if that's how it has affected you though.

Find new opportunities and move forward when you are ready.