Right choice? Wrong choice?

[nat_84]

I'm officially single....have been since about 1am!

I suppose i was the main initiator of our seperation...!

I went to Manchester at the weekend....at which point my boyfriend said he never wants to split up with me... i replied i don't know..still need to sort a lot of things out and continue our "two-week break"....

Came back..spoke to him last night and he suggested we go on A MONTH SPLIT.....so bacisally completely seperate for a month - do what u like etc etc etc....

I refused to allow it, i could never give him permission to go on the pull, date, meet and god knows what with other girls....then come back to me after a month!

He told me this at about 12.30am and i was crying my eyes out and couldnt sleep!!!

So i texted him and suggested we end the relationship altogther being as thats where it was going!

Still love him to bits but hey ho - i suppose life goes on...

Think i made the right decision to leave someone i love...?

Spank you in advance x

[Homer55]

I'll go out with you nat, stop crying and let the good times roll!!!!

[nat_84]

lol Homer. Thanks i'll keep that in mind ;o)

[Homer55]

I always aim to please :)

[Surreygirl30]

Sorry to hear that :-( although to be honest i would have done the same thing as you - there is no way i would want a guy who had been around the houses for a month.

At the end of the day if he loves you and respects you then he would be a one woman man and all that. I know its hard and wish i could say something a bit more helpful.

[nat_84]

Thanks surreygirl i know what u mean.

Although he did say the month split wasnt so he could get with other girls but so that we could spend time apart so we grew to appreciate other again....

[Miss Inquiry]

You poor thing, relationship troubles really hurt!
Did he reply to your text?
How long have you been together?

[nat_84]

Nah he rang me back - saying he's gonna come round mine today - but i said no.

been emailing each other all morning - he wants to see me this week and give me my birthday present but i said i dont really wanna see him at least for a week because i just get upset when i see him - and knowing us we'll porbably just get back together - which isnt really a good idea!

[nat_84]

oh and we've been together for about a year and two months!

[snagged]

If I've read your Q correctly, you wanted a two week break to 'sort stuff out'... but were not happy when your bf suggested a months break for the very same reasons, and you 'refused to allow it'?...

mmmm.....

[nat_84]

no because - i would say a two week break is very different to a one month split.

When we were on our break that didnt mean we could go and date other people and basically do what we liked...

and we both agreed and suggested to a two week break...that wsnt just me.

[snagged]

but you say later on 'Although he did say the month split wasnt so he could get with other girls but so that we could spend time apart so we grew to appreciate other again'... which is what you want isn't it?...

... the difference between 2 and 4 weeks isn't that great to decide something so important to you both?...

[nat_84]

But it doesnt mean to say that he wouldnt get with another girls.

I think theres a trust issue in our realtionship - more so on my part....too insecure etc.

And if he did get with another girl, there wouldnt be much i could do could i?!

[snagged]

I think you're right about your trust issues!... if you can't trust him there's not much hope as trust is the cornerstone of any relationship...

[spk]

Hi Nat- Hope you are ok :O( This has been coming a while though hasnt it, it sounds a bit like he wants to have his cake and eat it. I wouldnt stand for 'break' nonsense either. Only you really know in your heart if youve done the right thing, but it does get easier and you will have a new fitty in no time babe ! Thinking of you xxx Psst Happy birthday for the 17th !! xxx

[nat_84]

lol thanks spk!

hope everything's going well with fitty.xxx

[spk]

Are you ok though seriously? xx

[nat_84]

Yeah seriously im cool. We're still talking and stuff so i dont feel too bad yet! Thanks lovely x

[spk]

give yourself some time away from it though, try not to be in touch too much just now you could probably do with a bit of headspace. And dont sleep with him , just complicates stuff even more. A day or two with no contact would probably do you good. Thinking of you x

[indianna73]

What did he reply to your text?

[nat_84]

ive written what he said in my 3rd reply.