Lying?

[Fiszi]

I don't know whether to believe my boyfriend. I have been at uni for a couple of months now and he is back at home. He told me he has met this girl and they are just friends. I asked him on Friday if he has seen her again and he said no. Then I got a call from him saturday saying he saw he on thursday after all and that he didn't have the car so he couldn't take her home so she slept in his bed and he slept in his mums room. Do you think he is telling the truth.

[WendyS]

Probably not. I think you have to face the fact that by going away to university you are probably loosening the threads of this relationship, and that with time, you will make other friends in your new environment and get wrapped up in current activities and new interests. . He will probably do the same in your absence. You may possibly develop your self more quickly than he does in your new surroundings and it may be wise to fact the fact that not too many relationships can stand the strength of a three year separation, with only occasional meetings. There's no point in having a big argument about it. Just go with the flow and try to remain friends. After three years away in the company of other interesting people you may wonder what the attraction in this relationship was.

[atolhurst]

I would be inclined to think that guys who have friends who are girls, at the same time as having a girlfriend, usually know them before the girlfriend comes on the scene. And it seems a bit odd, to be honest.

So my gut feeling would be that something's going on. Even if nothing has actually happened, are you going to feel comfortable with him hanging around with another lass while you're away - I personally couldn't deal with that. lot's of drunken phone arguments I expect. Not really what you want to be doing at university - it's meant to be fun!!

I suspect your bf misses having a girlfriend around. But if he lied to you about seeing this other lass, it's probably because he's got something to hide. Either way, if you're going to have a long distance relationship, honesty is paramount. And he doesn't seem comfortable with that.

Good luck honey!!!

[ummmm]

Do you think he is telling the truth?

[badlands]

sounds extremely dodgy. Where has she suddenly appeared from?

[marley2000]

to be honest, like the others have said it's hard when you are apart and im not sure it ever works. unless they have known the girl from school or just for a long time, it's very rare they'll just stay friends. there always seems to be an innocent excuse but really if he really thought 'no, she shouldnt stay, that would be wrong' he would have simpy called her a cab. he may think it's innocent now but even if nothing has happened yet i really think something will. im sorry Fiszi. but maybe we're being cynical! we're just speaking from experience and knowledge. let us know how it pans out and when you prove us wrong!xxx

[Champagne]

Hi Fizsi, I think that the seeds of doubt are already sown. You have a niggling feeling that he's lying and that's all that counts. It's up to you how you want to deal with this now. You can either carry on as normal, and wait until you have hard evidence before you act, or you can leave him now on the basis that he has broken your trust and you are going to follow your instincts on this.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, so has he asked you if you want to meet his new friend yet? Also, where did his mum sleep?
Seriously tho Fiszi, it looks like he wants to be more than friends with this other girl. Unless of course that he already knew her beforehand. but even still, would you do what he has done?