What to do next...

[yummymum]

I will cut this story short or i will be here all night, basically I have been with my partner for 5 years now and we have a 3 yr old, just over a year ago for various reasons we split {well he told me to leave to be exact} I must say in my defence, i hadnt actually done much wrong but i had had my fair share of problems that year that I didnt deal with in the best of ways, however he not a total angel himself.

Any way only a matter of weeks after I moved out he was on the phone saying we shud see each other, because we had a child together and I still loved him I said yes. Over the year it as gone from him being at mine once a week to being there every night he is off work so I thought things where improving between us and maybe we could be back togetehr proper one day.

[yummymum]

Bare with me....On new years eve we had a row which totally spoilt my night and some very nasty things where said by him, partly caused by the fact that I had tried getting him to go home at 3am so I could tell him some news I had {I was 3 months pregnant} anyway, again cutting a long story short only a week later things had got back to normal between us however he still hadnt mentioned the baby and to this day hasnt. Not only has he not mentioned it he hasnt told anyone including his mother even though i have asked him a few times. At the begining of this week we had another row this time caused because I said something about one of our dogs, this caused him to call me allsorts of names even though our little lad was there, I barely reacted out of shock and not wanting to do so infront of out our lad. He as carried this arguement on all week now and is now saying that we are finished. Ive got my scan 2morro and was really hoping that he would come but now it doesnt look like it. Also today I decided to tell his mum because on monday i need to tell my works and because i work with ppl I know i thought it best to tell her first. I really dont know if I should have gone behind his back like that and i am more clueless as what to do next, i hope this explains it in a good way there is sooo much more to the story but like i said i would be there all night.

[LostStar]

Oh hun, have you got any people that you could like stay with for a shirt while to get away from the situation and actualy get the support you need and deserve? It's not fair for you or your child to be around him, especially with this arguing. He sounds a bit of w*nker and quite frankly no matter what you didn't deal with in the right way before, if you got back together and both wanted to make it work, then what's in past is in the past. Going behind his back? You gave him enough oppurtunities to tell her himself - do you have a good relationship with his mum/family?

It's a bit immature with him carrying something like this over a whole week and i understand there are many other underlying issues, but if he really means it this time for you to split, then it doesn't mean in the long term he can't be a supportive father to your children... this is obviously just my opinion, but i think you need to grab a friend to go with you for your scan and support you in the short-term tomorro then soon enough (as much as you don't need to get too stressed out right now!) you should [here it comes] sit down and have a civilised chat and try and make rational decisions. Good luck :) Chinnup, i hope it all works out for you.xx

[yummymum]

the thing is he will never sit and talk I would be really happy if he would, i get on okay with his mother but she seems to think the sun shined out of his backside. I told her because i didnt think it was fair that she found out off someone else, now im knida sorry i told her because she found out that ive been living off just over �10 a week for the last few weeks and is now offering me money which i didnt want because its just doing the job that my partner should be doing and getting him out of a hole once again. I live on my own with my son so we are away from him but i cant really go anywhere else anyway.
To be honest i feel really used and let down and it seems no matter how hard i try i seem to be in the wrong.