Why is it so hard to make friends here in England?

[ReinaLuna]

Ok this one goes more as me opening my heart, than exactly a question, because I know human beings are complex and probably you won't be able to give me an answer for this one...

Thing is, I am 31 years old, from Brasil, living in England, and I'm really talkative, cheerful and funny but I find so difficult to make friends here. People either drink too much (and I don't find any fun in going to pubs to getting ****** and all those people SHOUTING around) or they just don't seem to care, even the ones who say they want to make friends, when I write to them, seems they only want a virtual friend to have a nice chat from time to time. I want REAL friends, to share moments, to laugh and cry, to go to their houses and invite them to mine, watch some dvd's, talk and have fun...

Will I always be looked at like this exotic foreigner? Sometimes the guys also try to make friends with me, but then they just start to flirt the most vulgar ways, and I feel really angry, because I HATE stereotypes, like just because I'm from brasil, doesn't mean I dance samba and behave like a hot desperate one...

Is it a general thing in our society, to be so closed to each one's lives and not take some time for the friends? I can get really lonely here sometimes.

[riodave]

Ola Reina, bom dia, Todo bem,
My name is Dave, I got the nick-name Riodave from my English friends,because I used to live in brazil, I joined this site to find some brazilian friends,

I lived in Sao Paulo for three years, from 2000 till 2003, very much in love with my beautiful Brazilian girlfriend, sadly she had a sort of mid-life crisis, and kind of flipped out, I wanted to stay and try to make things work but she was in a very strange place within, and so we split up, and I returned to England, I live in the far southwest of the UK, in Hayle, Cornwall,

I really miss Brazilian ways, We came back to England, twice, just to meet my family & have a holiday, but She used to say that British people were very distant, and it took me quite a while to learn to be a little more brazilian,
so I know what you mean, we (us British) are all a little inhibited when it comes to reaching out,
I think thats why so many British people take to drinking to much, but then we lose judgment and it all gets very strange, so even if we have lost our inhibitions and managed to connect, become friends with anyone, we won't remember anyway,

Do you play anything musical, that can be a good way of connecting to other people,

Hey, look at me going on and on here,

well I hope it all comes right for you soon,

Um grande abraco para voce,
Tchau,

Dave, x