Broken Relationship

[blackloss]

I just broke up with my boyfriend of four months who I was never attracted to in the first place. I figured he would grow on me but that never happened. If I wasn't attracted to him and I didn't really love him then why am I sad about breaking up with him?

[chazza]

You are probably experiencing a loss of companionship, cuddles, affection and friendship!

[jno]

probably for the same reason you got together in the first place - you feel something is better than nothing, maybe?

[4getmenot]

routine

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, maybe its because the break up didnt happen in the way you expected. I think you do like him, but you have only realised now that you have split...

[nutgoneflake]

Well done blackloss!! It's natural to feel sad, however you feel about him - you'd be a tough nut if you didn't feel something. Don't beat yourself up about it. Remember the second step is to go out now and let your hair down - how was graduation?? Or is it this week? I'll keep on at you until you tell me you've relaxed!! Any plans for the summer? :0)

[blackloss]

Graduation is on friday and I am excited about it but I have not slept in almost 2 days straight, I think that is due to the excitement of my sister getting induced today and the fact that I went on a my senior trip so I can't fall asleep in a vehicle. Today I got an email from him saying that he didn't know what he said last night, that he was in shock and he still loves me but then he said not to write back because there could be one less life on this planet. I am scared about this.

[nutgoneflake]

Sorry I missed your reply blackloss. Piling a guilt trip on you isn't fair, so don't think of his threats as your problem, however hard that sounds. In my experience, people who talk that way, or act that way, are not really considering suicide, just trying to scare others into doing something. I know it's a few days later, but I bet things aren't so scary now. At that age, I had friends who thought it was cool to talk about death and depression and all things black! They all grew out of it - so will he. Getting back with him as a result of this threat will make you MORE miserable than before. What kind of sad relationship would that one be? Better not leave in case he tops himself? You'd never grow to love him then, would you??? You should be running in the opposite direction and not looking back.

Hope graduation yesterday was fun. Today is the new start you need, so off you go and grab life by the b@lls. Steer clear of doom-mongers. If you feel like one yourself, concentrate on becoming something else! Be happy.

Change that username, for gawd's sake!!! x