Really need some advice please.

[sair5412]

I have just found out (from a very reliable source) that my boyfriend has been cheating on me. I had suspected that this "friend" he suddenly had was something more. I found out on Friday and didn't know what to do because I was in shock. I was getting texts from him all weekend telling me he loves me blah blah (all the while he was with her) I carried on as if i knew nothing. I thought i could plan some wicked revenge but I am not that sort of person and I couldnt go through with it when i collapsed in tears last night. This morning I texted him saying "Don't ring me, text me or come near me ever again. I don't associate with liars." He has texted asking what he is lying about and rung about 15 times. I havent responded because I don't want to give him the satisfaction of letting him know how hurt i am. Am i right to just cut him off like this? What should I do now? My mum and my 2 best friends are away and I am feeling very alone and confused.

Thanks

[dot.hawkes]

I am sure this question was asked a few weeks ago! If not then soz, but now as then, i would ask, what is this reliable source? You obviously trust it more than you trust him.

[Whickerman]

I'm unsure what age you are, so advice may seem odd.

Give him a chance to explain. I had a very close female friend, (I'm male), and people used to gossip about us. Thing was, my (now) wife also worked with us so she knew there was nothing in it, but had she not been there every day the situation would have been very different in that she'd have a doubt. Give the bloke a chance, you might be surprised.

[raysparx1]

Hello sair, if you are 100% sure he has been cheating on you then you are far better off without him, i personally think you should have told him face to face why you want nothing more to do with him, unless you yourself have caught him can you really be that 100% sure he has cheated, there might be a simple explantion, but if he has then it would be very hard to trust him again and without trust, the relationship is no good, ray xx

[nursecarla]

Should you not hear his side of the story first and make your decision then? maybe it is someone being malicious but until you hear his side you cant know for sure xxxxxxxxxxx

[ummmm]

Only believe half of what you see and nothing that you hear.

[ummmm]

It's a lesson I learnt at a young age.

Gossip

and what people think they see !!

[laurence2]

Well first and foremost sair, it would of been nice from you to respond to AB's advice from your question posted 8 odd hours ago.

In regards to your boyfriend, i can only agree with other AB's, you have to confront him yourself, it might be difficult for you, but you really do need piece of mind, imagine if your reliable source has got the wrong end of the stick, it will look very silly you dumping him then would'nt it.

The other thing is, what is it these days with dumping someone by txt ?it seems to be a common occurence with people, its insincere, nasty & weak, i really do wish that people confront these type of issue's rather than go down the txt route.

And if it is true he has cheated on you, its game over, once a cheat always a cheat, i'm sure someone will tell you about 2nd chances giving etc, but once the trust issue has been broken in your mind, its extremely difficult to get that trust back with that person who cheated on you.

Good luck

[Skreecheeboy]

I agree with everyone else, I don't trust your sources and I reckon you should find out for sure if he has been cheating on you. If it turns out he has been cheating on you then you can take the moral high ground and walk away with your head held high.

[redhead23]

hello !!!! u are doing the RIGHT THING , my concern is though if he was that bothered why has he not CALLED ROUND TO SEE YOU !\

SOUNDS LIKE AN IDIOT, so u blank him completly and he still does not come round to see what the problem is what a loser , i hope he used a condom sad git

[Chickens2000]

You've done the exact thing I think I'd probably do in your situation. I think you should cut him off for as long as you need to process this in you mind and then maybe speak to him to get his side of things. I would be very wary of what he tells you though. It maybe innocent but if you trust the person who told you then you are better off without him.

Good luck. xx