Best Mate Troubles!

[cutejenna04]

Hey there guys,

Need your help! Last saturday a group of my mates went out on a lad's night out while i was at a wedding reception. A few of them rang me during the night and they really sounded like they were enjoying themselves. It got to about 2 o'clock in the morning and i got a phone call from one of the guys asking if he could stay round mine as 4 of the other guys were going to a club in Enfield to get off there face on drugs!!

Now one of these 4 is my best mate, so i panicked, tried to call him to tell him now to go but couldn't get through! So i decided to call his older brother and let him know, cos i know my best mate would answer the phone to him. Now i find out that my supposed "best mate" has the raving hump with me cos i told his brother and his brother told his mum and dad and at which he is being threatened to be kicked out of his house!

I did it cos i care and i didn't want him to hurt himself or even worse get attacked or something! Now he won't speak to me and its really getting me down! He means the world to me, i don't know what to do!

Any advice guys!

[4getmenot]

I can completely understand where he's coming from, you may care but its his life. You can only tell him that you dont agree with it not go to his family. Id leave him, if he regards you as a good friend he will come back.

[cutejenna04]

So you think i should have been ok to let my best mate go to club and get smashed out of his face on drugs, and maybe do damage to himself?

I didn't know what to do - he would have done the say for me!

[ummmm]

I presume he's an adult?

If so then I agree with 4get. It's his life to do with as he chooses. If he wanted to hear what you had to say then he would have answered the phone.

Can you see how much trouble you have caused him ?

[4getmenot]

we can all give our advice but at end of the day Do you think you would have made any difference, people do what they want to do. People see drugs in different ways to him they might be harmless. I know why and you seem really caring but I can see why he is mad you got his family involved. Some people you cant tell what to do. You�re saying it as if he�s never done it before and they were forcing him. If so then yes maybe you did do right thing, but very seldom do people get forced into it. He�ll only take it as you sticking your nose in.

[cutejenna04]

Yeah i do - but i was looking out for him!

He would have done exactly the same for me! He really disagrees with taking drugs and i knew that he would regret it big time if he did do it!

I didn't mean to cause so much trouble for him, really i didn't! I just wanted him to be ok!

[4getmenot]

If he really disagrees with drugs what was the problem?? He's not going to take them if he doesnt want to is he, if he is this leave him to it its his own fault if he wants to try and take them just to fit in. We know you were trying to help and he has no right to say you're a bad friend but he does have a right to be annoyed u told his family.

[cutejenna04]

Thats the thing 4getmenot he is friends with a guy that really takes the **** out of him, not only does he force him into doing things, he also manipulates him into really guilty if he doesn't do it!

This guy is a real scumbag, and i have made my feelings on this guy very clear to my best mate - who can see it at times but once he has a few drinks inside him, he lets him walk all over him!

My mate doesn't agree with drugs, hates them in fact and thinks that all drug users are scum. This is why i panicked on saturday night cos it wasn't him talking it was this other guy and i really was worried!

[4getmenot]

he obviosuly likes to bloke to go out drinking with him. Yes there are people out there that do get walked over but the onyl way they will learn is by themselves I'm afraid. If your mate has a go say go ahead then take them, he will soon learn. My friend got onto heroine and the only way she came off was after she lost everyone because we were sick and tired of helping her and being let down. Let him be I'm sure you will be fine. xx

[4getmenot]

maybe next time you just need to think about the consequences and who might be told about things. xx

[cutejenna04]

Thanks guys! I really appreciate your comments!

xx

[4getmenot]

you're welcome. dont worry yourself. xx

[chompu]

I think you did the right thing. If he is immature enough to succumb to peer pressure, which it seems he is, then it's a good job someones looking after his welfare. If he can't see that, then he doesn't deserve you as a mate. He's probably more annoyed that you showed him up in front of scumbag and others rather than the reaction of his family.
I'm sure his parents and his brother are grateful for your actions.

[ummmm]

In furture phone his other mates. Anyone. But never involve his family. If someone done that to me I'd drop kick them from a height.

[Reverandfunk]

Personally speaking if anyone tells me what not to do I'll make sure I do it.

It's his life, let him get on with it, do you do the same if he's just going out on the lash? He's a big boy and although your intentions were good he can look after himself.