Men..?

[bigirl]

I have been through some really annoying relationships with guys,the ones my age are just ********* so it seems.(15-17 years old) but the guys who i am most attracted to are the players,insecure ones,ya know? like all arrogant and stuff.it never works out. but then one of my guy friends told me he loved me a few weeks ago,he is sweet,deep minded,mature and amazing. but i really really am not attracted to him,dnt like his smell,his appearance or anything. can someone re-assure me? are ALL the good looking chunky hunky hairy men ********? or are there sensitive ones who think with their minds not just their penis.And have respect for women. i am attracted to guys and girls equally,sometimes i wish i were not attracted men because the ones i seem to 'love' turn out to be crap and i get all hurt. so...please tell me about a guy/s you know or yourself who are not crap and are attractive, so i know that they exist.would be nice. or just give your opinion on ..stuff about this topic. Thanks xxxxxx

[ummmm]

How old are you first ?

[bigirl]

16 very soon.but i feel 27 most days,and have done alot in my 15 years of living.
i don't like holding myself back from things i suppose.
how old are you?
x

[ummmm]

I'm old.... :-)

All I can say is that you learn as you live. You'll learn how to spot a player with life experience. You will also learn what you want from life and how to get it through trial and error.

I really don't mean to patronise you but life will teach you what you need to know. You're young....you have loads to learn :-)

[Goodsoulette]

Goodlooking guys when they are younger can be idiots, they think they are the bees knees but as they approach their 30s they become nice guys too. Trust me though, no good, handsome guy in his 20s would touch a 15/16/17 yr old girl.

Try to be with someone who makes you feel good.

[bigirl]

Thanks.

yes i am young,hate being a teenager though.
because you are not quite an adult,and not young enough to just mess about.
so people treat you like kids,and expect you to behave like adults and the other way round.
confusing sociaty.
yep i have loads to learn i do know that,i got so much ahead of me.
you think it is best to stay away from relationships at this age then?(seeing that all the ok males are over 20).
i think it is best,for the time bieng anyway.
cheers for your answers.made me feel........a tiny bit less dissapointed ( I am crap at spelling)

xxxxxxx

[Llamatron]

'I have been through some really annoying relationships with guys'

Jesus tap dancing Christ! You're only 15. FIFTEEN.

..or are there sensitive ones who think with their minds not just their penis.And have respect for women.

Holy cr@p. YOU'RE ONLY 15!

Am I the only one that finds this post disturbing?

[bigirl]

for ***** sake.
just because i am 15 yes FIFTEEN.
do you really think it matters?
i know a girl who got married at 16.
So,Some 15 year olds are not all innocent and stay away from sex and relationships.
get used to it.
and,i am not the kind of teenager who just shags anything,atleast i have the care to go out with some one and not jump into bed straight away.

and to be honest,it would only be disturbing if i HAD been with a 20+ year old.
so if you have not got anything positive to say,say nothing at all,the other two seemed to be able to do that.

thanks,i hope you are having a good day :)

x

[bigirl]

And now that my question has been answerd,i can take it off sometime soon,so i will not 'disturb' anymore people.

[Llamatron]

This married 16 year old friend of yours, by any chance does she live in a council house and have two kids called Skylar and Charmiane by two different dads?

[Silversky]

wow... I think you should all chill!
I'm 16, almost 17... And I know what you mean about guys, they are exceptionally arrogant and 'bimbo'ish. I can't stand standing next to one, let alone attempting to have a conversation with one.
I met my boyfriend (21) about 7 months ago. And he's still pretty immature, but nothing compared to 15-17year olds.
And I find him pretty perfect. However, he's never gonna win 'best looking'. But to me- he looks amazing and I wouldn't change a thing.
'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' at the end of the day.

But however... I think you need to treat people in the way you wish to be treated, and personally, I have found that you come across quite immature and insensitive.

And believe me, though you think you know it all, you really don't. I know I don't. And you'll still be learning things till the day you die.

[aims1202]

i know you are still young but i'm going to answer you like i would an adult. i have always been the same, attracted to the so called 'bad boys' i actually found the fact they treated you like this attractive, they are usually charming and confident. sometimes good looking but if not they act like they are.
as you get older though and you have some bad relationships and have your heart broken and also have a really good time you start to realise that even though you are still attracted to them you dont actually want to be with them.
i've met someone quite recently who i still fancy but he is different, he's not totally not my type( i'm staying away from my type) but he is one of the good guys and although i was not crazy about him from the start (probably coz he's not bad enough!) i want to get to know him better and i think that something really good could come out of it. just have to wait and see what happens.
have lots of fun and enjoy being young, don't wish your life away. there are good guys out there and one day you'll find one!

[tattoo1094]

Bigirl dont throw your toys out of the pram, one part of becoming mature is listening to other people s opinions, whether you like what they have to say or not.
Now to answer you question, i think you have to look a little harder at yourself and ask yourself why you would want to be treated like crap! Your obviously choosing a certain type of person...........and they are choosing you. I would expect because may be your a little vunerable, like goodsoulette says find someone who will make you feel good about yourself.
Best of luck bigirl

[CactusButtus]

Hmmm... well, when I was your age I thought the same way... I had some reeeeally bad relationships - was sexually abused etc. To be honest with you, most men get better with age. It sounds to me like you are more attracted to the mature end of the population... by that I don't mean men in their 60's, I just mean the teenage boys that have grown up a little faster than others. My love life never turned out the way ANYONE wanted it to. My partner is 35 years my senior and to most, that is a little bit creepy (I am a female by the way). See, with you, your feelings are quite common. Certain childhood experiences of mine have more or less determine the way I think and feel. You have more than enough time to be confused and frustrated. At your age, I felt that I was a 16 year old stuck in a 30 year olds body, which can make you feel a little bit lonely and misunderstood. If I were you, I would give it sometime. Love and relationships are all about trial and error, whether we like it or not.

Jaymee-Lee