Should I lay a guilt trip on her

[Skreecheeboy]

Bit weird this. I usually play footy on a Friday evening but this week I've arranged to go on a residential course to learn about cob building. Ordinarily this would be great but this week one of the guys wanting to play apparently used to play for Lazio! I think it's a one off. Now I'm definately going on this residential course as a girl I've recently started seeing is going on it too and since she lives miles away it's an excellent opportunity to also get to see her,. That said, would it be bad form at this early stage, given that I'm sacrificing so much to see her, to make her feel guilty about it in a light hearted sort of way?

[mrs_overall]

Why would you contemplate playing games like this? If you do try and make her feel guilty you should change your name from skreech to "TheRotter" or "The Cad."

[Rollo]

Skreecheeboy, you deserve this:

http://i9.tinypic.com/6x1i2xw.jpg

[Skreecheeboy]

But, Lazio Mrs Overall! LAZIO!!!

I guess what I really should have asked is, is it ok for me to feel sad about missing out on the footy?

PS - Notice, "lighthearted sort of way" in my question!!!

[Skreecheeboy]

Can't open the link Rollo as I'm on a machine at work.

[mrs_overall]

Oops.
I've just asked Mr O what a Lazio is (I pronounced it Lay-zee-oh) as I thought it was a firm that made reclining chairs or something.

[Rollo]

Well save it for later.

[hussy]

hi screetchy baby
you don"t need her to feel guilty but explain to her that you have put her first instead of the footy and im sure she"l get the message that your very interested in her. yopu can always play footy again but may never see this girl again so go for it.
enjoy yourself and empty your heavy sacks. lol xx

[dolly pond]

the link is a bozo award,

whos lazio?

its lost on me, as never watched footie

[natalie_1982]

Skreech, just be honest and ask her if she minds, I'm sure she'll understand. If she doesn't then you know what you're letting yourself in for! LOL

What's cob building? I have images of towers of sweetcorns in my head

And, when, exactly did he play for Lazio? If we're talking about him being a sub, once, in 1962 then I'd understand if she felt annoyed ;-)

[Skreecheeboy]

Dunno, the organiser just phoned me this morning and said that one of the new guys that's been showing up that looks like Boris Johnson knows somebody that used to play for Lazio that wants to play on Friday. Johnson gets stuck in so I can only assume he's fairly young still.
I'm definately going on the course (unless it's cancelled in which case I'm playing footy while the bird warms up the bed for me!)
Cob building is basically making your own materials to build with using clay, sand and straw. It's low impact, cheap and sustainable. It's just an introductory DVD that we'll watch but we'll be doing some dry stuff about volunteer retention through experiental learning, a lecture about unvented solar hot water heating, along with some reviewing work, outdoor hot tubbing, sauna-ing and sleeping in a thatched roundhouse or a tipi.
Should be good but the footy would be comparable to playing with somebody that used to play for Man United or something.

[mrs_overall]

Now you've explained it all, it sounds more fun if you go play footie with the 95 yr old ex Lazio sub.

[paulos66]

Dont make a rod for your own back, don't even mention the football, if she thinks there's the slightest chance you'll put her before the football she'll try it every time.
Lay down the ground rules at the start , let her know she comes 2nd to your needs and the relationship should work fine (bit like getting a new puppy really, kick the sh!t out of it when you get it and it'll never give you any grief later)

[Skreecheeboy]

I actually play with one of the fastest over 60's marathon runners in Scotland so I wouldn't be surprised if we can get a youth versus experience game up and running again!

[paulos66]

Don't forget thaat Gazza was one of the most talented f**k-ups this country has ever seen

[Skreecheeboy]

You're just saying that coz you're a geordie Paulos! He did score a cracker against us at Euro 96. That would be amazing if it was Gazza! He's a total legend and he'd fit right in with the curry and beer diet some of us prescribe to!

[bednobs]

i dont get why she should or would feel guilty

[Skreecheeboy]

It's ok Bednobs, she told me that she's really sorry but at least I'll see her to compensate so I'm glad she understands and I don't really care that you don't. Fact is getting to play footy with somebody that used to play with a top rated Italian team doesn't happen everyday and I have every right to feel down about missing it. I'm a 24 year old redblooded male by the way, I assume you're not?

[bednobs]

nah, i'm not. I am being genuine (and a bit dim by the looks of it)when i say i dont understand why she should feel guilty you would rather see her than go to the footy? Shuldn't she feel flattered rather than guilty? or do you mean guilty that someone likes her that much? But then why would you be teasing her about that? <<<<< genuinely dosent understand!

[hussy]

yea nobs is right btw screetch
little bit confusing as you have different answers wondering if you were going with her and missing the footy or going to the footy. i am always right so i know my answer was the correct one. lol xx