Should I lay a guilt trip on her

[Skreecheeboy]

Bit weird this. I usually play footy on a Friday evening but this week I've arranged to go on a residential course to learn about cob building. Ordinarily this would be great but this week one of the guys wanting to play apparently used to play for Lazio! I think it's a one off. Now I'm definately going on this residential course as a girl I've recently started seeing is going on it too and since she lives miles away it's an excellent opportunity to also get to see her,. That said, would it be bad form at this early stage, given that I'm sacrificing so much to see her, to make her feel guilty about it in a light hearted sort of way?

[Skreecheeboy]

Hi Bednobs, don't worry about it. Read my 1st answer to my own question. Third post down. I'm pleased as punch to be seein her!

[hussy]

i was right screetch wasn"t i ????????? lol xxx

[Le Chat]

Bednobs - He means that he wants her to realise (and feel slightly bad ) about the fact that she is so priveleged that he has sacrificed footy to be with her. Not mentioning that the course must have been pre arranged, a deposit paid? and he had made the choice to attend!??!
So if he hadn't of gone on the course, he would have been sending her a clear message that she was on the 'z' list!

[Skreecheeboy]

It's actually free (paid for by the heritage lottery fund) in aid of charity work we do. It is nice to get perks for something once in a while, did over 100 hours voluntary work last month alone!

Yes hussy, you were right!

[hussy]

sometimes its just not worth posting something when all you get is fukcing muppets trying to take the p1ss

[Beads]

You shouldn't make her feel guilty - even in a lightheated way as you state. She's not to know. And it means that you start a relationship playing games. Are you sure that this guy played for Lazio? And are you sure he is really turning up or is it a case of ''I heard that he said that she said''? If iit really means that much to you then I'd be honest with her. Explain you really like her - and offer an alternative so she knows you're not blowing her out - but state about Lazio man and see what her reaction is.

If I went on a date with a guy and he was giving it the ''I gave up blah di blah for you'' and I wasn't to know that he had the offer to blah di blah it in the first lace, then that would put me off him a bit as it would make him seem a bit childish.

[REDHEAD24]

its a course it should be irrelevant to her wether u go why the hellwould u give the poor cow a guilt trip
aint it punishmet enough having to see u ???


love u lots

[Skreecheeboy]

It really annoys me when people do that. I said I'm going to see her and she feels sorry for me missing out. There's no games here. You women are so paranoid! I have been honest and up front with her and she's given me all this aww that's a shame, oh well you get to see me to compensate kind of stuff and I've just been like, oh well at least you understand that I'm sad to miss it and in my book that's even better than making her feel guilty! It means she's a woman that respects me and realises I'm a big kid. There can be no greater qualities than those in a bird. I'm as happy as that Larry chap today! xxx

[natalie_1982]

Not all of us are paranoid you cheeky get!

Trust me, my fella doesn't need an excuse for a night off from me - I will quite happily kick him out the door in favour of some "me" time :-)

But then this early on in the relationship I guess you still like eachother huh? lol

Why not compromise and make her play football with him? PMSL

Have a great weekend whatever you do. Incidentally, what charity do you work for?

[Skreecheeboy]

Hi Natalie, I'd rather not tarnish its good name in public by being associated with the likes of me! If you're on the beta site I'll pm it to you.

[natalie_1982]

I am having trouble with beta at the mo, but send me a pm anyway and when I can get in there I will have a look :-)

[Skreecheeboy]

Hi Natalie, just type beta where it says www and you should get in eventually. You will need to accept me as a friend for me to be able to pm you!

[REDHEAD24]

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[baby moo]

Don't make her feel guilty, even if it is in a jokey way. If you don't want to go, be honest as to why and make it up to her at a later date. The decision should be yours and making her feel guilty about it shoedn't come into it.
Get honest, or stick to your origional plans
Baby Moo

[Skreecheeboy]

Hi baby moo, had a wicked time! Didn't mention it the whole weekend, well not in a bad way. Got pretty drunk in the hot tub and we only had to pay for 1 night coz we rebuilt some steps for them. Pretty tiring weekend really!

[innithou]

lets hope you went to the course and missed the 'amazing footy' and then she saw you for what you really are and put you in your place and had nothing to do with you ...

never play with peoples emotions as a game....

[Skreecheeboy]

Did you actually even read anything that I said on this post? Boil your head ye stupid numpty I'm not even going to repeat myself to defend myself. Idiot.