help me please

[falrep]

Hi there everyone. Now dont laugh but i met a bloke on a chat site a few months ago and have been geting to know him slowly as i have a child. We really seem to of clicked and everything has been fantastic - untill ....... he sent a text saying he felt ill and was going home from work to bed night night love ya etc etc and never turned his phone back on again ! Im going mad here - backwards and forwards with if he did it on purpose (which i struggle to believe but maybe im just silly) or has something happened. I dont know how to start tracking him down - ideas please xx

[mrs_overall]

When did he send the text?
If it was today, take it at face value.
If he sent it 3 months ago, I'd say it's a safe bet he's dumped you.

[Stepmama]

I used to chat to a guy who reckoned he had heart problems and had to go off to bed early tucked in by his ever so attentive sister ... I soon realised that meant the missus was back! I'm not saying that's the case but if he'd been serious he would have given you more info than a mobile ...

[yinyang]

If you met him online, do you not have an e-mail address you can try to contact him on.

When my husband is sick he turns off his mobile so that people from his work don't pester him. The guy probably just feels lousy and is sleeping.

[falrep]

The phone has been turned off for a week now - so dont think its just cos he is ill. He normally texts at least 20 times and day and rings two or three times so its not really like him to not talk. It was a works mobile and I know he was due to get a new one so i am wondering if he has transferred my number over properly. I cant contact him via internet as I met him on a mobile phone chat site.

[B00]

Well if it's been over a week and he hasn't contacted you, I'd let this one go- it obviously wasn't meant to be.

Chalk it up to experience and move on.

[pastafreak]

eeerrrmmm...I think i would have to agree with B00 on this....if he really wants to get in touch he will / would have by now. How well did you know him..had you ever actually spoken to him....heard his voice??. You may have been putting a lot of hope on something insubstantial.

[meglet]

A mobile phone chat site? I've not heard of them but I'd be wary as it could have been fake just to get you to spend your money and text.

[falrep]

I have spoken to him many times and also to memebers of his family. This is why I think he may of be genuine. it is a mobile phone chat site called fast flirt which operates on o2, orange and t mobile. I have been back through everything and cant see one other example where I could think he may of been having me on and Im a pretty good judge of character.
He has never been to my house as I have a little boy but he does know my full name - my number is ex directory though and I know that his is too. He did tell me where he worked but i ahve gone and forgotten the company name. I know to many of you this will sound foolish and if i was advising me friend I would be thinking he just wasnt interested but it just doesnt add up. There is nothing to suggest this is anyway and to be fair men arent the greatest liars generally. Like i said I have his works mobile number which I know was due to be changed so im thinking maybe he didnt swap number over right.
Its just so annoying knowing that I may never speak to him again - and I know you can argue that I havent lost anything really but to me it feels like I have xx

[cazzz1975]

Im a with boo and legend with this sorry!!

If you keep trying to track him down or bugging him you come across as bunny boilerish, Remember you met him on a phone chat thing so who is to say that you are the only one he chats to? Like boo says if its meant to be its meant to be if not chalk it down as an experience.

If he is interested genuinely he will get in contact, he has your number, the ball in in his court. in the mean time dont agonise about it, get on with your life! plenty of fish and all..

[messyjessy12]

hes just being a coward if he doesnt just call you bak and let you know whats going on. try and 4get about him,and if he does eventually call you,tell him unless hes got a good excuse for not calling or texting for a week then **** off.x

[cazzz1975]

not good jessy, If you are going mad because someone doesnt text you for a week it puts warning bells all over the place, they are not married you know....

[messyjessy12]

doesnt matter if their married or not,shes not a door mat,got to stand your ground

[cazzz1975]

He is probably married falrep, this doesnt mean he isnt interested but it would explain the cloak and dagger stuff.

[falrep]

I am 100% sure he is not married - I dont think he would be getting his mother to chat to me whilst he drives if he was somehow. I know what you are all saying but as I have said I think that it is most likely that he has transferred my number from the works phone (the number I have) into the new one and done it wrong - the phones get sent straight back to o2 so he wouldnt be able to check and see if I have texted or rung at all.
The phone is turned off and I have spoken to o2 and they tell me it has not been active at all in a week - which supports my new phone theory. They will not however tell me which company it is actually registered too.
I dont think I am acting like a bunny boiler actually, I think that I ahve met a perfectly nice man and that unfortunately we have managed to loose contact - I am pretty sure that he will be feeling exactly the same way as I am and thinking of ways to find me. So if anyone has any bright ideas on how I could locate an address or something so I can write and then leave it up to him I would be very grateful x

[cazzz1975]

look at it like this, he owes you a phone call at the very least, If he had your number on his work phone he should be able to get it back fairly easily to get the number off it.

If he was changing his phone he would have let you know, he didnt, so why do you think he didnt let you know?

so to sum up, what do you really know about this guy, facts, address, age, home phone number...?

Like I have said if he wants to get in contact he will, he chose not to call you again, he choses not to make himself available to you.

[Sasha13]

Right - be objective. Lets say he switched the number oer wrong - (not quite sure why he'd be using fast flirt off a work mobile, but there you go). He'll be able to get your number off his itemised bill when it arrives, if he wants too. Other than that - does he know where you work? Your surname? Any other way that he could get in contact with you? In my experience, if a guy wants to get in touch with you, he will. Some guys are just strange and they just turn off - doesn't matter how involved they were. If you can't get in touch with him, you'll have to wait to see if he gets in touch with you, so you need to stop worrying - put a time limit on it. If you haven't heard from him in two weeks, move on.