Married or in Sin

[delsgirl]

I would like to know (especially from a mans point of view) Would you treat your partner differently if you were in a long term relationaship and living as man and wife but not married, as opposed to being actually married. My partner says he treats me differently and does not feel responsbile for me because we are not married and i have not had his children, is this a normal situation for men or just my akward old man?

[froggequene]

As a woman, I think he's disrespectful & a complete *rse

How does he know he treats you differently? Has he been married before? Does he know for sure he would be less of a g*t if you were married?

[delsgirl]

Hes been married twice and lived with 3 or 4 others previsouly in between for approx 5 years each time. Quite damaged I think. Excellent point though, im going to ask how he knows the difference and in what way tomorrow though.

[VICTIMS]

i am not married, or living with anyone, but dont think i've treated any ex-girlfriends worse than if we had married. if anything i would expect this guy to be better to you now, when you can walk away. once he has 'captured' you with a ring, he knows he can do what he wants, its a big thing to split up then,

[shylock73]

I`m a married man, have been so for 40yrs. My advise,..... if you want to take it is GET RID OF THE GIT. There are plenty of us out there who have respect for women.

[tufty7]

Sounds like he can have any piece of cake and eat it ... My only concern would be that he has not commited himself to you and may be an awkward old blokey .... the fact is he is responsible towards you , he lives with you shares things with you and probably likes the benefits of being in a relationship more than being single , just enjoy whatever you can as long as you are happy and content anything else doesn't matter .....

[Taxman1]

It is difficult to answer this both sensitively and honestly, but I shall try, as I see it.

I am married, we have one daughter, and my wife is expecting again. I like this for many reasons, but the one which seems to relate to your situation is that they are part of my life, and I feel part of theirs.

I could never have lived with someone and felt any respect for them or myself. Other men I know see the living with a person as an extended date, sex included, with a very easy option to move on.

I think your bf - he is not a partner as partnership implies equallity and stability - is expressing a common view, and I agree with him. I also agree with froggequene that he is a complete *rse.

You are in an unhealthy relationship. That is your fault. The bf is a self centred overgrown juvenile - emotionally retarded is an expression that springs to mind, and men have a longer shelf life than women so he will be able to get away with it for quite a while and you won't.

Sorry for the above, but you did ask for the man's point of view, and perhaps by doing it something may be gained.