i need to get over him

[lucy8]

About four years ago, I met this guy. Thought nothing of him, he was going to school in another state. He came back though and after spending time with him I fell madly in love. With him I radiated happiness and without him I feel as if I have lost my spirit. He had a reputation of being a player and actually cheated on me with a girl he went to schol with. Out of anger I started dating this other guy who I have been with for almost two years. He is the best guy I have ever known and although I could see myself spending my life with him, a big part of still thinks of my ex. The last time I talked to my ex (months ago) he told me he thinks I may have been the love of his life, but he won't talk to me as long as I have a boyfriend. I've told myself not to believe him, but I do. I don't know what to do. I feel as if I'm cheating the guy I'm with now because a part of me wants to be with someone else. Does anyone know of ways to help get over someone? Or know if there's just some people you'll never lose feelings for? I don't know this has just been bothering me for too long now.

[tinkerbell99]

dont go back there he cheated once and he will defiantly cheat again what i would do is to cut all ties with him and start a new life with your new man x

[SKA]

your ex is an idiot forget him, most players are the type of people that are fun to be with and good looking etc but wont be good for you in the long run

[4getmenot]

Oh my god that could have been me writing that. I was after a guy for years and although we were seein eachother he would never commit, and it was always one rule for him.... a year and a half ago I had enough and told him that was it and we could never see eachother again. I loved him so much but spent most my time upset over him or things he'd done. I met a lovely bloke and even though I will always love the ex I know it was different love. My new bloke is perfect and cares so much for me and gives me a future to look forward too. I still get texts and got one last week From ex saying that he thinks he missed out on his last chance of happiness with me. Even though this makes me think for a bit, I know deep down he says these things because he is lonely, and karma has got to him, he now cant have me. I also know times change and I can say that your ex wont be the same, it wont be as you were back then at all. Please if you are happy don�t take a chance, the grass isn�t always greener. xx

[DarkMajes71c]

cut him off dont talk to your ex... history as they say repeats itself especialy with relationships and especialy if there is a lengthy gap between getting back with someone.

[lucy8]

Thanks to everyone who responded. You guys are right its just hard. My first love, who I was with for over three years, cheated on my numerous times and did a lot worse things to me and from that I just kind of got the idea that there are worse things than cheating. I actually say my ex yesterday by complete surprise. I could tell he was so over me. I know were through, it's just hard.