In relationship with married man!!!!!!!!

[lerler]

Hi all,need some advice.I've been with him for three years now.He's still with wife,she kind of like has a clue,but he just keeps fobbing her off.He tells me he needs to say because of his debts etc,we have a great time and love each other alot.We've tried the not seeing each other for a couple of mths,but where like a boomerang...we just keep getting together.What should one do...?

[LAW_DROP-OUT]

looks like hes got both sides of his bread buttered.... lucky sod

[B00]

Always octavius, good enough for Bonnie Taylor, good enough for me!

alas Radiogaga, i think we both are, well I know I am- that is why our love (oh ok, just mine then) can never be, I just have to worship from afar :-(

[B00]

Bonnie Tyler rather......

[andrea81]

"What should one do...?"

Feel sorry for his wife perhaps????

[Octavius]

B00, my long distance love, I look handsome from afar. The further away the better I am told.

[B00]

Is that right Octavius? I'm also boss eyed too- so you're gonna be a stunner eh?

[Octavius]

T�is not true, several people have admitted after several several drinks that I am not all that bad looking. They said the same of my twin. But it was odd, because I don�t have one.

[lerler]

Well yes i@m here now!I love him and he loves me.We have such fun and good times.He has older children.At the moment they're not too keen on the whole idea.Will they ever accept me...?,iwonder.They say time is a great healer...

[Octavius]

So again we are back where we started. He won't leave his wife so what do you want to hapen now? What do you think you should do?

[cazzz1975]

he must love his wife as well

[TheEpsilon]

Why should he choose , when he already has both .

[cazzz1975]

He doesnt have to by the looks of it

[jno]

what should one do? Depends which one, doesn't it. What he's going to do, it seems, is keep on eating his cake and having it. So what are you going to do? Keep on spending your time with a man you can't have when there's a world full of men you might have? If so, why?

B00 and others have pointed out the obvious: if he wanted you and you alone he's had years to sort it. Debts never stopped anyone in pursuit of their true love. They're just a convenient excuse (and quite probably not true.) He will never leave her. Men like that never do. So now it's your turn to decide what to do with the rest of your life.

[Jugglering]

Lerlel... sorry sweetie... but there is no way you two guys are ever going to be together... if he had wanted to be with you, he'd have been there by now (3 years ????). You really need to start thinking of yourself now (because there is no way he is going to be doing that) and find yourself a partner in your own right. If he did leave his wife, could you ever really trust him not to do the same to you in the future anyway ? He has a loving family, an adoring wife and a very attentive mistress at the moment, why on earth would he change that ? If you don't believe us, then tell him you are unavailable for a while (for whatever reason..work, holiday etc) and see what happens) - that should open your eyes to just how he sees you !

[pastafreak]

Yeh-time is a healer...but for how much longer are you going to be his 'bit on the side'?........because that is all you are. If he really wanted to be with you , he would have just packed his bags 3 years ago-and the hell with the consequences....."she kind of like has a clue"-WHAT does that mean?...does she know where he is when he is with you? has he done this before and she is allowing him to be a naughty boy because she is the only one who trully understands him?.....and what is the glue that keeps you together?? Sex?.......you can bet that it won't last.....right now-sneaking around makes it exciting, but you have no idea what it would be like to live with him and pick up his pants every morning after he's had a shower, or to listen to his snores.....or to just have him facing you across the table every night......get real. You are simply wasting your time....and he is wasting your life.

[Velvetee]

He is well and truely taking you for a ride, literally!! Not to mention having his cake, icing it and then eating it.

Married men rarely leave their wives and if they do, it tends not to be for their mistresses, but usually another woman. I know, it happened to me and I know many others too.

[Velvetee]

You are so right In A Pickle!

[Velvetee]

I wouldn't have put it quite so abusively Tastymorsel, but you are right.