Why is he ignoring me?

[selinamc]

I've been seeying a guy for about a month and he came round to my house last week to hang out.
We were going to have sex for the first time but he lost his erection which obvious was slightly awkward but I pretended I wasnt botherd. Anyway since then he hasnt returned my texts and he seen me out last night but didnt come over to say hi.
Anyway I really dont know how to deal with this situation and dont want to say the wrong thing as I really like him. What do you think I should do?

[lil123]

It sounds like he probably feels very embarrassed and is trying to avoid the issue of having to talk to you about it.
Maybe you could send him a text saying that you want to meet for a drink or something and that you understand if he doesn't want to talk.
I wouldn't waste too much time on a man again if it was me as I have had this happen a lot.
Don't keep chasing him but give him the opportunity if he does want to get in touch x

[beso]

Sounds like a case of too much "we were going to have sex" and not enough spontaneous passion. It is called performance anxiety.

Unfortunately this experience will probably increase his anxiety and even thinking about it will be distressing for him.

Go back a step and invite him on an outing somewhere.

[andrea81]

Agree with above, he's probebly not avoiding YOU, just avoiding the situation. He might really like you but is embarrased about it and is worried about it happening again!

Ask him out, but somewhere that wont end in sex, and hope that he feels comfortable enough for that! But if he declines, I would move on!

x x

[selinamc]

Yeah I was thinking of just asking him out somewhere for a drink, we go to the same uni which is quite small uni so I always see him out. He has just finished his 3rd year. We get on really well so its just a shame this has happened and your right, he probably does feel under pressure of it happening again.