Impotent?..................

[HJT40]

What reasons would there be for a man not being able to perform? The can get an erection, but not necessarily keep it, although they really like the person they are with? The man has even made a comment about not liking his body because it doesn't always work.

He doesn't smoke or take drugs, but does like a beer or two. I am wondering if it could be this? Or could it generally be to do with a low self confidence?

Anyhow any ideas would be seriously welcomed and also any suggestions what to do about it. It is making the situation very confusing for both parties.

thanks :-)

[weeal]

well ... Im sure that's not your real name tee hee

[joggerjayne]

HJ listen, this is bound to attract the pervs, but ignore them and stay with me here.

1. He can sometimes get hard and get in in. Good start.

2. Let him go on top. It's easier for him to keep hard because (i) he can control how it is feeling, and (ii) simple gravity helps ... if his stiffy is facing downwards, the blood stays in it more easily.

Okay, now ...

IF he loses it ... options

3. Make him feel that you are still turned on (which you may be). Say "Don't stop" and push his face down between your legs. If he makes you c u m, he will feel better about it. Then you say "Now, how about you?"

4. How do you finish him off? I guess we all know the answer to that. And the best way is to prop your head up on a pillow, let him straddle your chest, and take him in your mouth. You both get to c u m, and he will feel that the exercise was a success. Next time you make love, he will know that even if he 'loses it', all will not be lost.

And that ... will help him not to lose it.

Now, the other option ...

5. As soon as he loses it, do the propping up and taking him in your mouth thing. Either ...

(i) he will get hard againg, and he goes back in. Or
(ii) let him finish off, and then do you.

The end result is that you have a successful bonk every time. He knows that you are both going to c u m no matter what. That will relax him more that anything.

JHT - bit graphic i know, but this will work babes (and ignore the pervs who will no doubt try to sabotage the rest of this thread) Go for it girl !

[Octavius]

It is funny how you remember Q's from certain people. Did you manage to get rid of the genital warts HJT?

[winebuyer]

jayne, if I'd known you were so 'helpful', I would have taken you car home for you myself last week :-))

[HJT40]

Thank you joggerjayne, it is certainly worth ago and just graphic enough. I will give it a go, when we are in a nice relaxed situation and let him take control, until..........

as for you Octavius, tut tut, no nice!

[joggerjayne]

Good for you HJ.

Hi winey. Been here all day? Maybe save the gags for another thread?

[misundrstood]

theres lots of help online try the google search (impotence) then click on the links these are doctors who specialise in these areas it will help with you understanding the reasons and there are many that cause this problem these kind of sites helped me when my wife bless her had a stroke i hope they help you

[HJT40]

Thank you, all of you for your help, looks like I have some homework to do, but I am sure I will enjoy the end result.

xx

;-)

[joggerjayne]

Aww Zacs, don't.... :-(

[joggerjayne]

No, we're trying to get HJ a bonk.

[Octavius]

Hah! Yes I was kidding about the warts; it was probably someone else with a similar name. Seriously though, I am happy that you are willing to go to such lengths (must print out that post from JJ for my missus) to help overcome this issue, but please bear in mind that there may be some underlying medical cause that might not be best ignored � especially if you try everything as suggested and things still don�t work out.

[unhappychick]

Sorry JoggerJayne, I dont agree with you, the more she forces the issue the more he will want to crawl into a hole! and if he continues to stay limp he will only feel more awkward and more under pressure that he cant perform, which in turn will make him dread love making all together!!!!

To the people going on about the GP, well yes its an option, but ive heard that if a man wakes up with morning glory, theres no problem with the erection, the fact that he cant maintain it, suggests to me that he feels inadequate..simple as that!

HJT40...dont be upset, like I said before, he must think a lot of you for it to bother him soo much, take it as a compliment...im sure it'll all work itself out in the end -x-

[HJT40]

Thank you all for your answers.

Does he get one first thing in the morning, I don't know, so maybe not.

I am just going to take things easy and see how he is from his side. We are going out to a party this weekend so he can introduce me to his friends, nice relaxed time and take it from there.

[sqad617]

I have great respect for the opinions of Octavious BUT I think that he may have mislead you when he replied:" Impotence caused by psychological problems is a myth. Most men have underlying physical causes etc etc." This statement is only true for over 65s. as if one is younger then the commonest cause is psychological. I do not know how old your partner is, but from the comments I have assumed that he is in his 30s or 40's. If this is the case, then the disorders that Octavius has highlighted are very relevent, but NOT the commonest cause in that age group.

[HJT40]

Thank you.

I will try and talk to him about it at some point, but he seems to be avoiding me at the moment, which is not a great help! Argh!

[HJT40]

........its all good. You know what I'm saying?! :-)