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[rachael88]

hi i was just brousing on th computer and i found loads of porn bookmarked was at least 18 of them, i deleted them all and txt him that i had found it he is at work at the min so he wouldnt of got the txt yet, i found mags and dvds b4 but i just let it pass what do you think xxxx

[Prangy]

Consider it dropped, i know you have been exposed for your lack of knowledge :)

How long have you been with your boyfriend?

I would be worried if it is a long time and he still feels the need to keep porn 'on the side'. Its one thing having a peak at it on the internet, but to keep a hoard of porn dvds is abit dirty unless you are both relatively new in your relationship and practising positions portrayed on the dvds....

[sir.knobby]

If you are worried about the viruses then just put a condom over the computer.

[B00]

Hahaha, sorry, I don't normally laugh along with knobby (at him maybe...) but that WAS funny!

[puddicat]

good one knobs!!

[daisycup]

Every girl needs a rabbit. You don't know what your missing girl! :-)

[tigerlily11]

LOLKnobby.
I think looking at porn is preferable to what he could be doing. That is going out and finding another woman to get it on with.
Looking is one thing. Doing it with some one else is another and would hurt a damn site more.
As for the viruses, well they can be dealt with, a broken heart is far harder to fix.

[jno]

Actually, if you share the computer - and live together presumably? - it would be good manners not to have the pages bookmarked; it's kind of a constant reminder to you, which you have made clear you are unhappy about. You won't stop him looking at porn but he could be a bit more covert about it.

[daniela31]

So,rachael,the general concensus is, you won't stop him doing it, and you will only get upset if you let it bother you.
So why not find a few sites for yourself to look at....and do as daisycup suggests....get yourself a 'rabbit' and some good batteries and join in the fun girl!!!.....lol.

:-)

[tigerlily11]

Ditto to that Daniela.
If he likes to watch that on the net the likely hood is he would like to watch you do it to. Then heypresto you have his attention back again.
Suprise him and yourself and find out what you both like.
Good luck with that.

[rachael88]

thank you to every one who has aunswered we have talked about it and every thing is good now every one has helped me thank you xxxxx

[rachael88]

4 years in feb we have been together for xxx

[terambulan]

A lil tip Rach88 next time you find the porno mags fill the faces with stuck on photos of his mum/sisters/aunties etc.

Prangy leave the girl alone, not smart behaviour on your part. Are you jealous 'cause hairdressers earnings are what graduates dream about.....without the debts.

Keep up with your training Rach88, I know the business and you'll soon be able to '**** a snook' at the 'salaried' and put extra charges on difficult clients without resorting to insults.

[Bbbananas]

I would have thought you were more likely to catch a 'virus' from indulging in the act of porn rather that get a virus from browsing pornography, if you get what I mean??!

Raggy Roman - the spellchecker suggestion - oooh bitchy!

I know its suposed to be 'natural' looking at porn, especially for men, but if it's too regular, too iffy, too much too often, I would feel uncomfortable too. The odd one or two sites yeah, but 18? The odd one or two vibrators yeah, but how would Rachel's man feel if she had 18 vibes?
Oh, double standards.... Oh relationships.... I'm glad (sometimes) I seem to be with a man who isn't much interested in sex. Or IS he?! I did once catch him watching something along the lines of Hairy.Mary.com ;-)

[Prangy]

Terambulan stop reading into things, i was sharing my point and im sure hairdressers can get a fantastic wage i never said they couldnt you prune! Just look at Nicky Clarke for exampleTerambulan.
Stop trying to pick at me, my last point was valid. Now lets start again and be nice, i havent said nothing bad about you so do not try and undermine me by calling me a graduate. Silly wabbit. :)

[andy-hughes]

Hi Rachael,

I think that arttitudes to pornography are one of the biggest gulfs between the sexes.

Some women feel that a man should be content in a relationship, and only want his partner, and not 'need' external stimulation.

Some men feel that viewing pornography is harmless - and a lot of women agree, but it does come down to personal circumstances.

I think it is only courtesy to keep viewing habbits private - I might look at a pretty girl walking down the stret with my wife, but that's not the same as going Phhoowarrgghh, look at the a*se on that!". It's a matter of consideration.

I do believe that men will always look at erotica, because their sense of visual stimulation is easily stimulated. It's not a case of 'preferring' pornography to a partner, it is simply a matter of private indulgence, and really should not normally affect a relationship, or intimate feelings in 'real life'.

Where the problem arises is if a man watches exessive amounts, knowing his partner is upset, but continues - but that is the same as if he eats himself four stone overweight, knowing that his partner is worried for his health - it's about caring for someone and being sensitive to their attitudes.

Your partner should be far mor discreet in his viewing, and not be bookmarking on a shared PC - I hope you get this resolved, but if you are still not happy, then that is the isue, not what is making you unhappy, and that needs to be resolved so you can move on and be happy together.

[Bbbananas]

what a good answer andy-hughes.
A man with some common sense & sensitivity - not many of those around these days!

[peanut273]

guys whats nice about watching some wee sl*t get it?

I dont like porn. Its not nice in MY VIEW, I accept others opinions and i know what others may think and feel I just think its wrong. Sex is special. Its like paid prostitution on film for people to watch. It'd hurt me if my guy watched it, HOWEVER try stop him and i guarantee he will do it behind ur bk. Men dont get better, they just get sneakier...