all this waiting!

[Petal~flower]

I was with my partner for 4 yrs when he decided to relocate 100 odd miles away for work, Our relationship ended after he emailed me!! that he didnt want the pressure of coming back and forth to seeing me etc.....I was gutted

Anyhow, he dated other women, I didnt date at all. Couldnt be doing with all the messing around.

This year he got back in contact with me (we had had the odd text) and now he is moving back to my area as he says he wants to be with me.

But now he wants me to wait around for another 2 years while he gets money together.

He is a nice man, but how much hanging around can a woman do!!!

There is a lot of resentment in me, for the way he treated me, but he says I should forget it.

I am no spring chicken btw lol...............so am thinking should I keep waiting for him to get himself sorted?

[pinktwink]

it seems you really know this guy is a loser but dont have the confidence to break free. you say better the devil you know well do you not think you deserve better you owe it to yourself not to let someone take advantage of you or freeload ther way into your life. you have probably worked hard for your home etc dont let a looser like him ruin it

[lindapinda]

Evening Bez :-) D'ya get the puter prob sorted then?

[Petal~flower]

girls, everything you say makes sense.

myabe my self esteem has hit that point where I accept all the crap (never thought it would be like that)

[pinktwink]

its never too late petal to do something about it spend time being good to yourself if you dont care about yourself how do you expect others to?treat yourself to nice things because you are worth it,never settle for second best. Perhaps talking to a counsellor about the root of your self esteem or joining a local group would help. A group may help you meet new people

[Petal~flower]

pinktwint, he says now he regrets how he treated me, says if I cant forget all that, then there is no future for us...

talk about fu*king guilt trip!

[Petal~flower]

thanks pink xx

yes bez, I have 2 close friends..................and close to my sisters, who tell me to steer clear of the ex

I need a brain transplant lol

[lindapinda]

We had a Trojan too Bez ! Oooer!

[pinktwink]

how could you forget the thing is can you live with it is this what you want for your life have yee talked about your future is he prepared to commit long term. perhaps yee could try couple counselling.only you know what he is really like and how genuine he is or full of excuses to suit himself

[Petal~flower]

girls, to be honest, I have changed over the years from a fun loving woman,to a woman, ruled by work routine fitting in with kids (single parent) and thus acting like a fri**in doormat.

My fault

[lindapinda]

Petal...If Bez and i could get near you,we'd take you out for a wee drink and sort your head out ;-) We can't ,but,you know that everybody is right and he is just messing you about !

[Petal~flower]

pink, he told me about other women he had met............all details..............so I cant get it out of my head..............even though he tells me I should!

[Petal~flower]

linda, I shouldnt be posting my personal crap life on here, but like I said, its been a very emotional week for me....and I guess I got past caring. leaving AB soon anyway

[lindapinda]

"my fault" !!! Thats you being a successful mother and provider!!!....You have nothing to apologise for !

[pinktwink]

petal you and your children dont neeed this man he is bad news listen to what everyone is saying even your sisters.Sure it would be nice for you to have a partner but he is not a partner hes a waster who will end up causing more heartache to you and your children. You say how you have changed if this is down to him then you owe it to yourself to find that fun loving person inside you again. get back out there and find someone who appreciates you and with whom you can have fun

[Petal~flower]

sorry for whinging girls....................am off..............take care xxxxxx