Jilted before wedding

[smiler40ee]

My fiance left me 5 weeks before our wedding. How do you get over something like this?

[sqad617]

Get out and about and get another bloke.

[tamborine]

be thankful you didn't commit to a loser!

[Sgt.Rock]

What are you doing tomorrow night?

[Velvetee]

It will be hard, but best you found out now and not later down the line. There isn't much anyone can say or do to ease the pain, but try to look forwards, surround yourself with family and friends and don't bottle up your feelings.

[gbradfield]

did you have a honeymoon booked? are you able to get ANY of the money back that youve paid out for your wedding? if so why not go on your honeymoon woht a girl- friend/s and enjoy yourself. I wouldnt recommend you go out and find another man as that is the last thing you need, all you need is your friends and family around you right now cause there the people who really care for you. H ave a girly night in and toast yourself on having a lucky escape from that loser, anyone who can do that soo close to the wedding and break your heart isnt worth crying over, to do it so close to the wedding is cruel and heartless. Good luck with your future and i hope you find happiness xxx

[pizza]

sorry to hear about your news smiler x is there no way you can get a chance to talk to him and ask why x
maybe he just wasnt ready to settle down at this moment in time but whatever his reason if it was myself i would want to no x
all the best for the future and i hope you have got sood family and friends around you for support x

[itsmeron]

be worse if you had married then hed cleared off...

[brenda]

This happened to a friend of mine, she was totally devastated, but with the help of family and friends it took her about a year to really pull round.
Now she realises that it would have been a marital disaster, and that really she had a lucky escape.

It will take time , but with love and support from those around you , you will move on.

My friend has found a new b/f and is gradually learning to trust again.
She says it isreally one day at a time , but she feels more confident now.

[smiler40ee]

Thank you for all your replies.

My main problem is im dreading the "day" - its getting so close - now only couple of weeks away and i feel sick everytime I think about it. All the costs are left with me and that isnt helping too. My friends have been great. Still havent ventured out yet - just too embarrased to incase someone asks something. Daft I know but its heartbreaking. My trust has gone and ill find it really hard to trust someone again but hopefully in time that will faid.

[bantingm]

this must be a terrible time for you, my friend's wedding was coming up in a few months, and her fiance commited suicide not very long ago. its terrible and i cant imagine what either of you are going through, of course its going to hurt, but cry when you need to, and laugh the rest of the time. slowely it will get better.

Just mkae sure your very busy and preoccupied the day of the wedding.

Hope your ok x

[oldhamfan]

It's their loss.

[Sasha13]

Don't rush yourself. Accept that it's going to take time and that you have a rough day coming up.

Deal with the day itself in what ever way you have to to get through it. Keep busy. Or take the day off work, stay in bed with a box of tissues and some ice cream. Whatever.

After the day has passed, limit your pity party (I don't mean that in a derogatory way) to a particular length of time.

Then make every effort that you can you get over this person and get on with your life.

He/she took a look at you and your relationship and thought 'no thanks, I'm going to try my luck elsewhere'. This person does not deserve a lot of your time.

He/she honestly isn't worth it. And better that you find out now than 10 years down the line when kids were involved.

This WILL get better - but don't look at the relationship through rose tinted glasses. There were obviously problems (at least from his/her side).

Try to get on with your life - in a while, things honestly won't seem so bad.

There are a lot of books out there, some people hate them, some people swear by them. I keep recommending a guy called Greg Bernherdt, but he's very good. I honestly think that 'It's called a break up because it's broken' has saved my sanity in the past.

Good luck. We're here when/if you need to talk.
xx

[chattygal17]

basically it will be hard but at the end of the day if he can do something like that then he aint worth knowing

[smiler40ee]

Thanks again to everyone who replied.

I hear what your all saying and agree. Im gonna try and get past the "day" as best as I can and try and start to look towards the future.

Been alot of things going on - hence why he ended it - apparently i wasnt always happy and smiling. I have lots of family issues at the moment ie health problems and just couldnt be smiley and happy all the time so i think he felt like I was taking things out on him. His loss though - and im gonna have to try and keep that in mind although it is hard when im trying to "hate him" but still really miss him too. Very confusing all this!!