swinging update

[zxr69]

after our last post my wife and i decided to let you good people know how we got on with our latest swinging episode. well we have been in the swinging scene for over a year now but have only had 2 previous meets with another couple, this time i decided to spoil my good wife and set up a meet with another single guy, god what a night we had, before anyone asks no no no i did not have any sexual contact with the other guy lol, the guy we invited to our home was a very confident but down to earth persone who we thought was very open and honest however at the end of our fun, he told us he would have to go as his wife would be wondering where he was, this came as quite a shock to my wife and i as he had a profile that stated he was single, my wife was quite upset as she is very worried as neither she or i would ever play away ourselves, we were wondering if any of you good peoplehave ever been in a situation like this before, and if you have how do you weed out the single guys from the married ones as neither of us want to be part of someones affaire/ divorce, many thanks john, natasha

[sara3]

welcome to a world that sounds similar to internet dating.. trust no one!

and no, I don't ;o)

[zxr69]

thank you sara 3 you are rite of course, this is something my wife and i(she is allways on line with me ) have decided to do but want it to be fun we most certainly do not want to hurt or decieve anyone , so thank you for an honest reply.

[Velvetee]

Is this also known as Cuckolding?

There are lots of married men who secretly advertise themselves on places like Adult Friend Finder and similar sites, who's main purpose is to find no strings sex outside of their relationships.

I doubt there is any way of weeding out the single from the married men, they will tell you what you want to hear and probably lie to get what they want.

I wouldn't concern yourself with whether they are married or not. Infact in such situations, I wold say it's preferable not to know too much about the other person or tell them too much about yourselves.

[zxr69]

velvetee, my wife and i thank you for your very good answere, we have from the start been honest in what we are looking for and have been honest in our description of ourselves, all we want is a straight and honest reply to our ad on our site, we are now worried that we may ahve added to someones marital probs by inviting a single guy to join us who it turns out is married as my wife and i think that playing away from home is a dangerous and hurtfull pastime, anyway thank you again for your answeer it is appreciated.

[waterboatman]

there is a lesson for you there. I think you are better off meeting people in 'real life' rather than on line in this situation. you have a much better idea then of what is what. i.e. you can ask them if they are married (asking for an honest answer) and suggest they bring their wife/husband so that you then know no-one is going to get hurt. Also you can make sure you are not going to catch anything, always a danger. There are clubs etc. that are especially for people of a like mind. a much safer environment altogether. Why take risks? I wish you well and hope you enjoy yourselves. a lot of prople do, doing the same thing in safety. Good luck John and Natasha!

[waterboatman]

A valuable lesson for you there! You are much better meeting people in 'real life' rather than on line. You can then ask for an honest answer when you ask if they are married. Even better, there are groups of people of a like mind that get together to swap. a much safer environment, you know you are not going to catch anything for a start! Also you know that no-one is going to get hurt, albeit inadvertantly, so there will be no worries of the type you mention. There are probably more people than you think that do the same thing as you, and enjoy themselves knowing that their wife/husband is having fun too.
I wish you well John and Natasha, Have fun and enjoy yourselves. good luck!