I am going to go mad!!!

[unhappychick]

I posted a question on here about 3 weeks ago, about my partner moving in with me, and the subsequant costs of things, he was giving me �50 a week towards the shopping and said if the bills come in he would give me half the money, the problem I had with this, is some of it direct debit and one of the other bills is a key meter, so I asked people on here if they thought �100 a week was a fair contribution towards the running/upkeep of the house, all replies I got, said it was value for money and that he should be paying more, which I didnt ask for anymore, was happy with �100...however on Saturday he said he wanted to talk to me, and said he thought his contribution of �100 a week was far too much and that he had spoken to other people, and they thought it was extortionate!!! Baring in mind, he doesnt want for anything here, he refuses to eat rubbish and always get a fresh meal cooked for him, and he takes a cooked lunch to work as well, I do all the washing and ironing, and generally run the house, that �100 includes food, gas, electric, tv licence, water rates, phone and internet fees, and he is still argueing with me about it, despite the fact that I have shown him the bills and calculated everything fair n square, 50/50, he has a good job and earns triple what I earn. Before moving in with me, he lived with his parents and never paid any housekeep, he is a man in his 30's, and I cannot believe that he is questioning me on this, and is asking all and sundry what they think, I feel its an insult, and am upset by his action/reactions to this, am I being unfair here???

[sn�gs]

Good point there Zac...

[FullMoonLoon]

Zacsmaster
Mon 23/03/09
16:56 Yeah, should be at least �120 if he's getting sex as well.

That depends entirely on what exactly is being "offered" zacs.

[unhappychick]

I have shown him the bills, so he knows what they are, I have divided them 50/50 and wrote it all down for him, and he is still questioning it, what got to me the most is that he didnt discuss it with me 1st, and has made my points invalid, even though they are based on fact, and would rather take on board other peoples opinions..thats hurtful, I feel I am putting my all into this, I said I would give him my last pound...what a joke

[Schutzengel]

unhappychick. I think you should take on board the points I made in my answer to you on the first page of your thread, then think hard about it, and do what needs to be done.

[wolf63]

If he has been living at home earning good money he will have savings too.

Why don't you charge him for each meal that he eats, cost the meals and drinks. Charge him each time he puts something in the rubbish bin, every time he takes a shower, every time you have sex - break it down and he will see that living with you would cost him a hell of a lot more than �100.

[Aotearoa]

Nice idea wolf, but it shouldn't have to come to that.

He is being an unrealistic, selfish turd.

[cazzz1975]

let him find his own place to live for a while, that should give his wallet a reality check, He sounds like a child, he needs to grow up

[CrazyCathy]

I don't understand if he was giving you �50 towards food and then said he'd pay half of the bills he is complaining.

This is the fault of his parents who let me live rent free I think. Let him go back to live with them. Where else could he live for less than �15 a day?

I suggest you give him �100 a week and let him pay all teh bills buy the food etc etc and see how he gets on... nay kick him out.

[ladyalex]

Bin him now before he starts asking you to pay him for the pleasure of his company.
He's in his thirties now, so will not change his mean ways..unless, perhaps, he movves out and lives (and pays for) on his own for a couple of years or so.
On the whole, I think bin him. Who wants to live with a meanie/user ?

[Schutzengel]

Well, it seems that the concensus of opinion is that this guy is no good for you.

[unhappychick]

Well, I must say, im overwhelmed by the response...to be honest I have been a boiling point for 2 days now, and he wonders why I end up shouting at him and throwing insults...I cant help it when im banging my head against a brick wall...I will not back down on this at all! Im going to show him this later, no doubt you lot will all be wrong as well!!! Thanks for your comments, they have been very helpful

[CrazyCathy]

Unhappy chick we can't all be wrong!!!! And besides my hubby tells me I am always right!!!!

[sn�gs]

unhappy chick... show him this thread...

[sn�gs]

^ oops... didn't read your last post...

[puddicat]

Your user name reflects your angst get rid,he will only get worse,why would you want to be with a ***** like him,please dont be a needy female!!

[Bbbananas]

Chuck the stingy selfish bu55er out. He really is being unreasonable & I'm not surprised you're upset.

He's been mollycoddled & obviously hasn't got a clue what it costs to live in the real world. Kick him out into the real world so he can see for himself (though my guess is that he'll just go running back to mummy...)

[FullMoonLoon]

Unhappychick you could always ask us to come around to your house,sit in the dark like its a surprise birthdayparty,but instead we'll record it and all scream&shout S P O N G E R! The moment he walks in the door! The shock and the fact that the video will be put on youtube and sent to all his family,friends and work colleages will prompt him to shape up or ship out,you can then just pay us by having a real party,in which the beer flows like water!

[unhappychick]

Puddicat, certainly not a needy woman...quite the opposite, im strong minded and know what I want ;o)
FullMoonLoon, quality...I like it lol

I am bursting to show him this later!!!

[happyone2]

unhappychick.................. think about that comment ....that your are strong minded ??

I beg to differ, a strong minded person not only would have known that his attitude is wrong, they would be strong enough to take the right action, a strong person would have had the confidence to not justify their position - they would be strong enough in their own conviction to do the right thing.

A strong woman would have not put up with this AT ALL......no discussion, no debate - just go - thats what a strong minded woman would have done.

i wonder if you need to look at that disparity - you "appear strong" you "think you are strong" but then why you are accepting this behaviour when clearly his lack of maturity precludes a mature balanced relationship ??

A strong person would not ask in this absolutely ludicrous situation "am i being unfair here ???"

Dare i say unhappychick that you should grow up ??

[ChuckFickens]

I thought salla was calling me a stingy selfish bu55er when I first saw her answer :(