calling it a day on relationship.

[Jenarry]

Has anyone called it a day on a relationship even though both parties still love each other . think me and my bf need to do this but i know it's going to be hard emotionally but we have drifted apart and seem to want different things from life now. if you have been thru this did it turn out to right move in the end. please help.

[tamborine]

sounds like you've fallen into a rut.....separation will help you sort out your true feelings for one another.

It's not easy finding someone you can live with - you may both learn to appreciate that.

[lil123]

Maybe you just need a break from each other to realize your feelings.
I am feeling like this about my current boyfriend too. I love him but he isn't giving me what I need in the relationship x

[Jenarry]

unfortunately that's what i've always thought. bf moved out yesterday for few days to think things over (altho i was also gonna ask him to go for few days too but he beat me to it)it's just the worse sign ever. hate to admit it to myself but think gonna have to face up to being single and a single mum which is the last thing i wanted.

[4getmenot]

yes I have web just wernt right for eachother. On our own we had such a great time but with others about he treated me like cr@p and I was always upset, he couldnt commit but wouldnt let me be with anyone else. In the end we had a night where we said goodbye, Hardest night of my life.

[sqad617]

"Has anyone called it a day on a relationship even though both parties still love each other"

"but we have drifted apart and "

Don't understand the conflicting statements and I have never been given the definition of love by any ABer.

Your last statement says it all.......prognosis for your relationship?..........zero.

[Jenarry]

had much life experience squad617?...

[lil123]

At end of day you deserve to be happy.
Being a single parent is tough at times but also a lot easier if it means YOU are happy and out of a relationship you don't want to be in.
It can be a struggle at first until you settle in to that role but as long as you have good friends who will support you, you can manage.
I have been a single parent for 2 and half years now and had few relationships that haven't worked out mainly cos I put my son first and not them.
I have just ended another relationship as he wasn't supportive and I felt like he was just using me and expecting me to pay all the time.
I am grateful for the life I have built for myself and my son now.
I think it will be a long time before I let another man into our life x

[ummmm]

Sqad....love is a very hard thing to define.

[sqad617]

Jenarry...plenty....some + and some -.

ummm...that is the problem as it means different things to different people.

One can only debate at topic if all the people know what the subject is and as "love" differs, it make reasoned discussion difficult.

[cymruambyth1]

Some people just end up becoming friends, me and my ex loved each other but after 4 years it became more like a friendship rather than a relationship. You can get stuck in a rut, unfortunately we were fairly young, and it took me drunkedly cheating on him to realise that we werent in a relationship anymore.

I have been with my current boyfriend for two years and we still fancy each other from the first day we met and I cant ever imagine that changing. So sometimes I think things just dont work out.

It is tough, but you do get over it, he moved out and I suddenly had to pay all the bills on just my wage (which wasnt much) I spent hours crying, but I dont necessarily think it was because I missed him, it was because I missed having someone there.

It gets better after a while and like someone else said you will be far happier!!!

[maggie01]

A bit different maybe, but we called it a day after 40yrs married to each other. We still love each other and go out together but just don't live together.

We also split for a few months when we first went out so yes I think seperation can sort out your feelings for each other.