Do you regret your divorce?

[karma22]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1200 225/Why-I-I-suspect-separated-women-regret-div orcing.html

Was wondering after reading this article.

[sqad617]

robinia.......I agree, but the majority of men are looking for sex...........the reason for the divorce in the first place.

[sara3]

sqad.. do you use dating sites??

[4getmenot]

erm because they do marry for life and trust the person I guess and not everyone cheats so yes if they do cheat then divorce happens. People dont go into marriage thinking. 'ok I know everybody cheats, but I will marry this person and let them'

[sqad617]

sara....try Match .com

Sorpe.
Well educated, smart, professional, tall and good sense of humour. Seeks similar well educated woman with a high degree of sartorial elegance.
Non smoker essential.
St Albans area if possible.
Horner's Syndrome a bonus but not essential.

[karma22]

I love the idea of being married but much as I'd like to think you can be happy with one person for life don't know if I believe you can be. Perhaps if I get married the vows will have to be changed.

I think I could forgive a partner if he cheated on me but only if he was really sorry and obviously I would make him suffer for a while but I can understand that no ones perfect and we all wonder if the grass is greener on the other side from time to time.

It would certainly be different if a partner cheated on me but showed no remorse or didn't even apologise or even acknowledge he had done anything wrong, much like my ex bf.

Then I could not stay with someone.

[ummmm]

Sqad.....you're tarring all men with the same brush. Just because you cheat doesn't mean all men do. i have lot's of male friends and most of them treat their girlfriends/wife like princesses.

[sqad617]

karma.......spot on.

[MWB]

Did you have different coloured eyes as a child, sqad?

:)

[sara3]

Sorpe??

[karma22]

I think you both have to work at marriage otherwise it will never work.

Bit like Katie and Peter, I was thinking after reading that article, well perhaps Peter should have stuck the marriage out (seeing as he married her for life) but then on the other hand he was the one doing all the work to save the marriage and she just didn't want to change or compromise one little bit so I guess in those circumstances divorce is right.

[MWB]

You cannot know, karma, until you've been there!

[4getmenot]

Thwen if you arent sure people can be happy with one person for the rest of their life maybe marriage isnt for you. I always thought that too as I had alot of boyfriends before I found the man I;m with now and I couldnt imagine life without him. You just need to find the right one, if you are cheating then they obviously arnt the one. And the reason you were with that last one so long karma is that you forgive to easily. If I truely loved someone I dont think I could stay with him rest of my life knowing he had shared bed of another woman thats where underlying problems start

[MWB]

Yes, the newspapers know everything about Katie & Peter.

The newspapers are always right.

[ummmm]

Karma.....you cannot predict how it goes.

[karma22]

Sqad...I do believe I could forgive someone, it would take a long time for the trust to come back and it might never be the same but I don't think I would just dump him straight away, but then it does depend on the circumstances and he would have to be sorry and suffer a bit and come practically begging to me haha and obviously I would never let on anything to make him think he could cheat and get away with it.

It so depends on circumstances, if partner was sorry and remorseful, I would try and give it another shot, if partner didn't give a sh1t he'd be out the door.

[MWB]

Sorry & remorseful.

That's what some battered womens husbands are too!

[karma22]

yes its true thats where underlying problems start 4get and it would be very difficult.........no one knows if they can forgive cheating or not I suppose until it happens.........but then the marriage vows are 'for better, for worse, .... in good times and in bad'.

I kinda don't get if people think marriage is for life, they marry one person, divorce then marry again. If you think marriage is for life why would you marry again knowing that that isn't necessarily the case?

Not saying people who do this are wrong or anything just inquisitive haha

[karma22]

yeah thats true MWB, I don't believe you should stay in a violent relationship at all, you can't keep yourself in danger for years hoping that one day the man you married might change.

Actually that makes me think that marriage is really quite old fashioned especially the bit about for better for worse

[ummmm]

Karma....my BF phones me at least twice a day and we laugh and laugh and laugh. We spend most of our time together and we still laugh.

We finish each others sentences, we say exactly the same thing at exactly the same time.

When he comes in from work he spends half an hour with me and tells me how much he loves me. Then he goes to see the kids.

Everyone in this house is very happy .....even when sh!t happens

[sqad617]

karma...we are a perfect couple....made for each other....LOL

ummm ...who said that I cheated on my wife.

sara...617 squadron hit3 dams.

Mohne, Eider and SORPE.