fealing left out a bit.....of everything.

[postage]

Ok here's a sonario : you have 7 brothers and sisters you grew up with them. you have mum and dad . you had a great relationship with them then you grew up married had kids gave up yur life to build there life then as soon as there lives were build they left you....
your the most importent person any more....
they contact you if and when they need to duty bound...
your absence will make no difference at all..
you feel left out...

what would you do

[postage]

Sqad I dont know about that you might not be as ugly as me... he he I scare myself when ilook in merror.
vibrasphere I like keep fit I gym a lot... ( I am ugly as well as fat mate)

ummmm gOod question I am at a point in my life where I look like neither man or a woman LOL.......
sallabananas yeh beauty is in the eyies of a beholders my last date didnt want to know me after first date!! I must have scared them away.. see what I mean

[ummmm]

Postage - My BF's not good looking, well he is to me now but.....

[Bbbananas]

Why do you assume it was your so-called 'ugliness' that scared him away? perhaps it was your negative attitude or you being too 'down' on yourself. No-one likes an arrogant so&so or someone that's too 'up' themselves, but someone the exact opposite can be offputting to some.

You go to the gym a lot - is there no-one there you can get friendly with? Suggest a coffee or meet up somewhere outside the gym? Go to nightclasses - they're full of people looking for new acquaintances. Or bite the bullet and join a singles club or a salsa beginner's class. Easier said than done I know, but get yourself a life outside of your children - and you'll soon find them moaning that they never see you anymore :-)

[Sqad]

postage...I gather that you live alone and are a widower.

I have been talking to mrs sqad (as she is more sympathetic than wot I am) and she says that looks has nothing to do with it and you must keep dating. She also says that you are coming across as somebody who lacks confidence and that you must work on this and practice it during dating.
She also said that in the Phantom of the Opera, Christina was enchanted with him....not sure whether or not she meant this as a compliment....LOL

Pity you can't come out with me some evenings as standing next to me would make you look handsome.

[postage]

Sqad you are rigt I live alone and a widower

could let mrs sqad know that I can't date any one. I dont know trust any one been there done that. I dont lack confidence but I feel no one would want to socializ\e with me. as my family dont

[Sqad]

postage...where do you live?

[ummmm]

Family members can be selfish and presume you'll always be there. Friends tend not to take you for granted so much.

[Bbbananas]

sorry postage - I'd assumed you were a woman.

There's someone out there for everyone. You say you're a widower - that means someone once was attracted to you, loved you for what you are - doesn't that tell you something? xx

[Sqad]

postage....how about a Saga holiday or Saga Cruise?

Have you got a cat or a dog?

I get more pleasure from looking after animals, than the "family" have ever given me.

[Sqad]

vibra...I have been asked to give a talk at the Women's Luncheon Club.........should I recount my fantasy to them or do you think that it would be too much for them?

[postage]

ummmm your so right family think you will always be there no matter what ( uncontional love) do you think its better to slightly back off and still love them thou.

back off and give them space to breath. I am so desparte for them they dont have time for me. what a joke.

Sqad I rent so no cats and dogs. i live in south bank near the river aften go for walks on the bank over the tower bridge

[me again]

My better half and two littlens go away for two night but three days almost every week , the house is like a morge while there away ! I hate it ! but I also in the same breath love it ! (confused) I miss all three like mad but love the peace and quite there being away brings ! never get a good nite sleep while there away either !

Not much help I know

[postage]

helo me again
i know the feelings - when they are around you
you wish you had a free moment but when they leave you youwish they were there.

i love my family and my partner died a year ago so i am now alone. i needed my family around me but they are too busy for me.
thats life what can you do?
we have to work pay our bills and live
i

[Sqad]

postage....that is it in a nutshell.

But would you like to be with your family?

I wouldn't like to live with mine.

Keep posting mate.

[postage]

No vibrasphere they would,nt love it , I know that for a fact. they have there partners theydont need me hanging around

Sqad yes i would like to live with my family i hate the thought of having a stroke and there is no one to cal the ambulance or me dead during the nite and no one knows untill midday next day .
i 'll keep posting and hope one of you will notice the POST did'nt comeing in for a week or so....LOL

[Sqad]

postage....that has already happened to many and will continue to happen in the future on AB

[Bbbananas]

Your partner only died a year ago - that's so very recent and you're obviously still adjusting to your life without her (him).

Please pick a right moment to talk to your kids about how you're feeling. And keep posting on here, we're not a bad lot really!! We all lead such busy lives, maybe they're not making excuses as you think.