fealing left out a bit.....of everything.

[postage]

Ok here's a sonario : you have 7 brothers and sisters you grew up with them. you have mum and dad . you had a great relationship with them then you grew up married had kids gave up yur life to build there life then as soon as there lives were build they left you....
your the most importent person any more....
they contact you if and when they need to duty bound...
your absence will make no difference at all..
you feel left out...

what would you do

[ummmm]

Stop relying on others to make you happy.

[ummmm]

Then make an effort and get visiting.

[postage]

ahhhhhhhhhhh nice one vibrasphere i guess you have to no choice mate. what was can't be any more. so why chase after rainbows I guess.
funny things is i am always there for them when ever. you cant stop loveing someone ie family... but if all you are is a safty net then I guess move on.

difficult hey?

[postage]

ummmm they dont have the time for your visit then what
eberu time i ve asked they are too busy mate.
Wed 12/08/09
10:18

[Sqad]

No kids, no family around......that is my idea of paradise.

Just you and the Mrs.

Enjoy it postage.

[Bbbananas]

Talk to them about how you feel?
Without making them feel guilty or you feel pathetic. You're maybe not THE most important person in their lives anymore - but I bet you are still important.

[ummmm]

Too busy? All of the time? I think I'd feel rejected.

[Bbbananas]

One person's Paradise sqad, is another person's Hell.

I'm sure you're still important to them postage. I think what you're feeling is very common in parents whose children have flown the nest.

Definitely talk to them - but pick your moment - they're obviously busy people.

[postage]

sallabananas do feel bit pathetic saying things to them like.... you dont really care about me ha ha things like whay dont you want to tell me where you going on holidays?

i am a fool to my self .
i am not importent to them but i am to my land lord he needs the rent every month on time. LOL I thought about having a pet then the landlord said no way!
ummmm - brother is too busy he has a girlfriend said he want to spend his time with her and can't spare a even an hour ....?
sister has a husbend she really dont have an hour or even half an hour to spare for lemonade! she said she too busy.

funny thing they all live just down the road from me. and yes i do feel rejected... if all my conversation with them is hello you ok me ok then whats the point??
any sugestions mate or do I change my name to recoreded delivery.

[Sqad]

Maybe salla....as prophetic as usual.

Not sqad's philosophy.

You bring them up, you educate them and when they have flown the nest then you concentrate on you own lives.

Everyone has the same opportunity in life, some take it others don't.

"Molly codling" is not my scene and in my opinion each generation should look after itself.

Kids gone......me and the missus .........my paradise, but as you rightly say, someone else's hell

[Sqad]

postage.....do you play snooker?

[postage]

Sqad the only thng i know about snooker is that fifteen object balls that are not numbered are used! thats all mate.

vibrasphere no they dont have kids so i cant have picnics and i cant go to the pictures on my own i migt scare some people LOL
I dont have a partner that I live with mate only a person i see now and then .heheheheh
you see the problem is i lived with my brothers and sister a year ago then they sold the house dumped me and got partners I am too old to have a partner and too ugly.
so there youare.
do you think i should leave them aloneto get on and build on my own little netwrok .
or do I just be there for them.

[postage]

vibrasphere my tittle is tenant,/18 thats what the owner calls me. we become statistics ha ha

[Sqad]

postage.....being too old and too ugly hasn't held me back........ask salla.

[ummmm]

Are you male or female?

[Bbbananas]

postage - no-one is ever too old or too ugly (and I'm sure you're not ugly anyway...)
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - as sqad points out - he's done ok - it didn;t put Mrs S off & she's a stunner, and I love him to bits....

You need to get out more and make friends & a social life so you don't miss your kids so much. You need to get yourself some self-esteem woman !