boyfriend trouble

[blondie83]

I'v only been with my boyfriend a couple months and we have fallen in love, but there is one issue hanging over us, when we very first got together back in the summer, I went out drinking with my best mate and her (male) cousin who was visiting, me and the cousin decided to go for a late night drunken swim in the sea. It was totally innocent, nothing happened, i didn't think anything of it at the time. My boyfriend obviously found out and went mad (despite the fact that we'd only been a couple for 3 days and I invited him out that night and he refused). Ever since then he has been accuasing me of cheating on him. He is so obsessed with me and this other guy, he's adament that something happened. I can see his point of view, it does look a bit suss, I admit that, but i can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that nothing happened. All we do is argue over it and i don't think can cope anymore. I love him so much, I have tried to break it off and he begs me not too and promises he won't accuse me again, but then he does, and I stupidly put up with it. We had another massive row about it last night, going on til 5am, now I don't know where I stand anymore and I'm in peices.
Can someone offer me some advise please on how to prove to him that I really do love him and would never cheat on him. I've even agreed to doing a lie detector test if that what it takes.

[ummmm]

Jeremy Kyle?

Swim in the sea...Was you wearing any clothes? Was your mate still there?

[tonyav]

Yep, kick him to kerb.

[ummmm]

Well I can see him being peeved if you were both swimming naked.

If not...I agree with Vibra. If it's happening this early on in the relationship things will probably get worse.

[4getmenot]

You dotn need to prove anything, he needs to trust you. Leave him until he can see the light and grow up!

[albaqwerty]

my boyfriend "obviously" found out" well.....

get shot of him blondie. It will be all downill from here.

[Sqad]

My girlfriend went out without me, got drunk and went in the sea swimming with a crowd including males and you wonder why he is p1ssed off?

Turn it around the other way....he got drunk, went swimming with a crowd including women, without you.....how would you feel?

Normal response from your boyfriend, I would say.

He must have reasons for not believing you.....?????....have you got "previous?"

Can he come on AB and give his side of the story please?

[blondie83]

We both had clothes on, I was wearing a tankini (sp?) and a pair of shorts. My best mate decided not to come, it was just the 2 of us. He was wearing shorts. (oh and bear in mind that i live right on the beach, hence why we went for a swim). Iv even just looked into a lie detector test but its cost £550 and I cant afford that.
Thanks

[ummmm]

He hasn't got a side sqad....he wasn't there.

[Sqad]

ummmm .... two sides to every story.

[ummmm]

Well then he needs to grow up.

One of my best mates (male) use to stay at my house and sleep in my bed (clothes on) and my boyfriend didn't care because he trusts me....

[ummmm]

Yes I agree sqad but as he wasn't there he has to take her word for it. If it just this one incident that's causing the problem..

[tonyav]

Gawd, sqad you sounded like Jeremy Kyle then !

[Sqad]

ummmm....what would be your reaction if your boyfriend slept with one of HIS best mates who happened to be a woman?

[albaqwerty]

dit you tell your boyfriend or did your mate's cousin?
If you, you were being up front, boyfriend is insecure, if male cousin, does he have an "agenda" ?

[Sqad]

vib.....c'mon 2009....1809....midnight swimming.........." do me a favour" ;-)

I would "have a go" and I bet you would too.

[ummmm]

He has...loads of times. One of his female friends use to live here before I moved in. I suppose you'd have to know us as group to understand.

It wouldn't happen now because we live together so things have changed....

[Sqad]

ummmm....yeah, right.