do i contact him?

[baggysenior]

if you read my previous question you will understand my dilemma. he hasnt contacted me for 1 week (he's not a player and he's always seemed genuine)and i think he thinks i lied about my 2 yr old being sick, quote 'i was looking forward to seeing you but your petty excuses smell like bull **** Actually my little girl has been REALLY poorly all week and still is. i've been caring for her around the clock (as i should do) i'm so tired but i miss my ex. should i keep my fingers from my phone and refrain from texting him?

[sara3]

I missed your previous threads, but if you gave him a genuine reason for something and that's how he responds... is he worth it? really?

[baggysenior]

sorry sara3 this was my previous question,... my relationship with my partner hasnt been smooth running(look at my previous posts) we've been stuggling to have private time recently because his 15yr old daughter moved in with him. on fri he said he'd come over and stop overnight, at mine but he wouldnt beable to come until 10pm because he was watching a bbc drama! so i messaged him nicely and said 'honey, im not back from work yet (8pm) and by the time i got home and sorted out my 2yr old who'd just been sick i'd be pooped, so i said could we postpone it? then i realised how bad that sounded and said i'd love him to come over at whatever time as i missed him so much and i'd bought in a nice breakfast to cook for him the following morning. he ignored this message and several other ones telling him i loved him and wanted him etc. then i got a message back saying im fed up of your negativity and bull i was looking forward to seeing you but im peed off with u im going to bed maybe speak tomorrow. he didn't, so i presume its over. i feel so sad i cant eat or sleep and just keep blaming myself, even though i did everything in my power to say sorry. my last text to him just said, i'm sorry for everything i will no longer chase you. i called him 3 times on fri (all ignored) and left nice messages and 5 nice text messages. He said he loved me and i dont think he was planning to finish it because he was discussing our future on the previous day! how do i get over heart break, im so lonely. i have enough pride not to contact him now. my self esteem has plummeted. Why has he done this and how can i move on? i'm crying as i type this question!! somebody please give me some words of wisdom. thankyou thankyou thankyou.
baggysenior (Sun 14:00 11/Oct/09)
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[sara3]

I did respond to your previous post. I think he might be having issues with his 15 yr old daughter moving in, but legally he shouldn't be leaving her overnight as she is a child.

there's no harm in contacting him but you have to decide how long you're going to do this for. he may genuinely not be interested any more. it's tough, but at some stage you may have to accept this. if you contact him, keep it light and if he doesn't reply, or he sends another harsh response.. you know the answer.

best of luck x

[baggysenior]

yes i understand your point sara3,i've thought he just doesnt want me but just the previous day he was talking about how things were difficult at the moment because of his daughter but we'd get through it and he was suggesting we should go away together etc....!!!!!!!! i'm lost without him. thankyou kindly for your answers sara3 x

[sara3]

you may miss him, or be lonely but you're not lost. you're a grown up woman with other responsibilities and maybe now you should concentrate on other areas of your life.

really, a strong capable woman is more attractive than one who can't cope :o)

[coccinelle]

If this isn't how he usually reacts and words his texts; might it not be somebody else who sent you that text? His daughter???

[baggysenior]

no, i don't think it would be his daughter, she seemed a well mannered 15 yr old.you're all right, i won't contact him. my last text to him that night was, 'i won't chase you baby' and i havent and i won't. i have since found out that he smokes weed, i don't know whether this has any relevance to his moods. thanks guys

[pericat]

That sounds like someone who has a lot of problems - the others are right - get on with your life, start thinking positive things. Don't take his drug use as an excuse