My ex fiance or my pregnancy

[scottie77]

I am 6 weeks pregnant with an ex (who was also at school with me - we have had on and off relationships for about 10 years). My ex fiance though who split up with me earlier this year is wanting us to get back together and work through our problems. Unfortunately my family and friends hate him however its really hard to stop loving someone and i still do. Getting pregnant with someone elses baby was not on the agenda. My ex fiance and I had been trying for ages so you can imagine how surprised i was after one night wham here im pregnant. Problem is that im 37 and ive had trouble before with miscarriages. So basically i have to chose between him and the pregnancy. Its not the "baby's" fault so im soo confused. The father wants nothing to do with the pregnancy so its all left to me. Its a mess.

[puma86]

Sorry i dont understand, why is there a choice to be made?
:o)

[scottie77]

Coz i cant have both -

[rinkins]

Why not?

[puma86]

Why?
Will your ex fiancee not take you back if you're pregnant?

[redcrx]

as you already have the baby to consider then perhaps you need to make that decision first.

could you cope if you aborted this child and then couldnt make a go of it with ex anyway?

[sara3]

you're 37, and it's about time you stood on your own 2 feet. you don't NEED either man to move forward. this may be your only chance to have a baby.

remind yourself why your family and friends dislike this man, and make a grown up decision.

[rinkins]

There is obviously a reason he is your ex scottie

[B00]

Think I get it...

You split from your ex, had a one night stand with someone else, got pregnant by them and now have the chance to get back with your ex providing you weren't carrying another man's child?

Do you want the baby? If so, keep your ex as the ex. The choice really is that simple.

Good luck whatever you decide

[puma86]

I think if he is the reason you cant have both then - personally I would choose my child over ANY man! As you said before its not the baby's fault. He or she did not ask to be conceived and you should have thought of what could happen in your future before you got pregnant.
I'm 23 and pregnant and if I had to choose between my baby and a man there would be no contest. He is very unfair to be making you choose - if of course this is the case
Kate :o)

[4getmenot]

didnt we all give advice on this last week?

[redcrx]

ah yes, youre right 4get.

scottie, reading your previous posts, i think that you already know you want to keep this baby. Its the fear of being a single parent and perhaps the "what if" of an old relationship thats keeping you writing these posts.

I think you know exactly what you want to do, but just want reassurance that youve made the right decision.